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Originally posted by HarvestMoon
I guess I have too much time on my hands because lately I've been thinking about something: are men actually capable of romantic love in any way remotely similar to the way women are? Or are they only driven into relationships by instinct and the need for stability?
I know men have emotions like anger, sadness, and happiness but do they really "fall in love"?
After all, it's mostly women who write romance novels, go to movies about love, etc.
Right, first of all what's this about 'need for stability?' If someone said that about women, they'd be ran out of town on a rail. It IS possible,
believe it or not, for either gender to build a stable single life.
Secondly, why WOULDN'T men be capable of romantic love? Give me one solid, concrete answer why; not a stereotype
I don't see what this has to do with being able to feel emotions or fall in love. Not only is this a MASSIVE generalization and invocation of stereotypes, but it just makes no logical sense. Enjoying romance novels/movies doesn't make you any more able to feel love than enjoying Saw makes you want to torture people; it's merely differing tastes in cinema/novels.
Originally posted by nixie_nox
Now men visibly show less emotion, but they are more dependant on the females for emotional stability, and they show signs of such.
Ever see a guy get mad at something for no reason, and it leaves the women baffled?
Most likely he was saying something that he wanted approval for, and the female,being practical, might of given advice and brushed him off. or even her facial expression didn't show approval, sending him into a tyrade. Why the tyrade?
Originally posted by Herman
Originally posted by nixie_nox
Now men visibly show less emotion, but they are more dependant on the females for emotional stability, and they show signs of such.
Ever see a guy get mad at something for no reason, and it leaves the women baffled?
Not nearly as frequently as I see it happen the other way around...
Most likely he was saying something that he wanted approval for, and the female,being practical, might of given advice and brushed him off. or even her facial expression didn't show approval, sending him into a tyrade. Why the tyrade?
I mostly agree with you on the other stuff you said, though. Movies always depict the woman as the one who falls madly in love and gets her heart broken because the guy just isn't 'in it.' In my experience, it's more often the other way around, except that men aren't supposed to show feelings. In these days, it's easier and better received by his cronies for a man to say "Pfft, whatever...I'm just gonna go get laid" than it is for him to say "I really miss her." Of course, I'm talking about your average Joe six-pack here. I was actually pretty surprised -- when I went through my first serious breakup, I found a lot of my friends to be way more supportive than I ever thought they were. In fact, I found that once you start talking about it, men in general are really understanding and sympathetic to this stuff. I remember expecting to hear "Don't be a pussy. Just go F another chick," but 90% of the time I got some pretty insightful advice as well as sympathy and empathy.