Young love kinda sucks!! ='(

reply to post by semperfortis


Yeah, I understand that if it doesn't work out, I will love again, and he'll love again. Life will go on...like if something does happen though and we separate, for the begining of our end, its gonna seem like I'll never be able to love again or move on, but I know that one day I will. It just takes a little bit of time...

"Love is like a war, easy to start, hard to end, impossible to forget."

He'll always hold a special place in my heart though, and I'll never be able to honestly say I lovED him...I'll always love him. even if I fall in love with someone else...get married one day...anything, I'll still love him, maybe not as much, but it'll still be there. Love isn't something that just goes away...Or at least, if its true love, it doesn't..
I don't think real love has a past tense, there is no I loved...If you actually love someone, you will always love them, no matter what.

reply to post by virgthevoice


Being away from each other has put us through so many tests, lol. =/
It has got to the point though before, of me trying to hate him, but i couldn't. trying to forget about him, but I couldnt, and trying not to talk to him....that didnt work either. No matter how much we argue, we make up, and no matter how mad he may make me at times, I can't help but love him...

And your right about when we see each other again everytime, we just refall in love, but even deeper we fall..

This poem fits exactly how I feel...

"When it hurts so bad,
Why does it feel so good?
I wish this all made sense,
I wish I understood.
Not having you here with me is tearing me up insdie,
but I can't stop thinking about you no matter how hard I try.

You know how I feel about you,
and I know I want to spend the rest of my life with you
but it's so hard to do when I can't even be next to you.
Why does it gotta be so complicated?

Loving you feels so right,
but at the same time,
knowing I can't have you keeps me awake at night.
I just want this to be simple,
I just want you with me,
to look into your eyes,
be held in your arms...then I'd truly be happy.

Right now this distance between us is out of our control,
but I'm still hoping one day soon,
I'll get what I'm wishing for."

[edit on 7-3-2009 by minnie]

reply to post by minnie


I gotta say I can see why he loves you, you seem like a really nice girl! I'm jealous haha.

Good luck!

Originally posted by _Phoenix_
reply to post by minnie

 

I gotta say I can see why he loves you, you seem like a really nice girl! I'm jealous haha.

Good luck!

haha cute, Thank you!

Love can sometimes suck when strains are put on a relationship that you have no control over, I hope you both find your way back to the non-sucky kind.

[edit on 8-3-2009 by Kurokage]

reply to post by semperfortis


This is very true, but only in a specific case.

Ever heard of unrequited love? It can be totally devastating, until you learn to live with it, or at least cope with it for the moment. And there are more than enough people who've been bothered by unrequited love, for their *whole lifetime*.

The problem is that no matter how much you try to explain, you will never feel or know EXACTLY how that other person feels and thinks about it.

In any case Minnie, be glad that you have love, whether it's going well or not. There are tons of people out there who wish for it, but cannot or will not achieve it for a multitude of reasons, and you already realized yourself that you will move on in the end, so that's great (well not great in that sense but you get what I mean I hope )

If I could share, I'd rather have your ups and downs, than my gigantic downs and voids.

Regardless, best of luck.

[edit on 9/3/09 by -0mega-]

reply to post by minnie


How deep can love actually go? How deep is anyones heart?

How far can the mind stretch? Is the universe never ending?


Love is certainly a hard lesson in life and it touches us all,we all have our hearts broken and in many different ways.It is good the fact you have happy memories of your man that you fell inlove with.All you can do though is hold on to those memories and 'try' to move on.Your love can conquer the distance if it is suppose to be.There is plenty of time for both of you to spend soooo much time together.Just see this seperation as temporily and time to reflect on yourselfs,,,as individuals.What is a year or 2 of waiting when you techinally could have 70 more years as ONE.You both have something that many people never had.MSN Be happy inside that you did spend them 3months together,,this was a blessing.


Best Wishes for what ever happens.Just keep smiling

Alienmindflare x

reply to post by minnie


Such a bummer. I dated a guy when I was 15-17 and he was 17-18ish for two years.
Honestly we were totally in love and all that but... I'm really glad it's over and I'm glad that I found someone else. It happens fast like that, and the good thing about being 18 is that I know there are other people out there.

Am I realistic about the relationship I'm in now? Kind of. We're going to be in college together, it will determine the outcome of this. Like being far away is hard but there IS a way out (look at me! 12 hours away now, but come the fall we will be a few minutes apart. It takes guts to stick it out and I can't tell you if it's worth it in the end or not. That's for you to decide.)

Like, my ex cheated on me and we lived 8 minutes away. My current has not and he lives 12 hours away and I haven't seen him since New Year's, but he's coming up this weekend. This isn't my first long distance but it's been my first in a good few years.

The biggest couple things of advice that I have for you are thus:
1. Trust. TRUST. Trust. It's so hard. Like, I know. It's a bummer. I trust my boyfriend to not drive when he's drunk, not to do drugs, not cheat on me, stop smoking cigars when he finishes this pack. That's what we agreed upon and it's taken me 9 months to be able to trust him. And I still kind of don't. You can never really trust someone. So that leads me to my second point.
2. SPACE. It's counterintuitive. When you love someone and you're far away and want to BE with them, it takes a ton of effort to not talk to them every minute that you can, text constantly, spend hours on the phone. But this isn't good. It will make you miss him more. And it gives you more chances to get mad at each other. Distance is really hard and sometimes, often, when you mean something and you're stressed and miss someone you can say something else, and he can do the same. You can't get sarcasm or emotion as well over a distance. It's hard. But you do need to live your own life, get hobbies, hang out with friends. It helps to distract yourself, and you will be happier, and so will he.
3. When you do talk, if you can, webcam. No no no not like weird perv webcam. But if you utilize two way webcams with microphones, it's almost like a conversation in person.
4. Care packages are awesome and shipping costs aren't TOTALLY expensive. It helps to surprise each other with packages or with sending flowers or making a piece of artwork and emailing it to them.
5. Some good long distance dates are watching a movie online, going on an internet scavenger hunt, browsing youtube, browsing websites, or whatever. You can also use applications like Yuuguu to take control of each other's monitors over a long distance (remote access) and it's kind of fun to do that every once in awhile, he can see what you type and you can browse the same website at the same time.

It's hard but if you put your mind to it, you can succeed.

Thanks for the replys everyone

**Update on how its been doing**

Well, everything has been doing great There hasnt been any arguements about anything since I actually made this thread for some reason, lol. Weird. But anyways, past few days we've been fixing a lot of things in our relationship, so its helped a lot. I'm so happy right now.

I dont know what to say that hasnt already been said kiddo.

How about just (((Hugs)))

and HI!!!!

;-)

Silver

Dont give up Minnie!
I know exactly what you are going through just be glad you both live in the same country.I need a chainsaw to cut through all the immigration red tape b.s in my path.But im currently moving heaven and hell to make it happen and incredibly its making our relationship stronger because neither of us would go through this on a whim.So stick it out kid, people will tell you your crazy but stuff em.

awww minnie my baby im sorry this is happen to you. i truly believe though if it is meant to be the two of you together it will be.

we all fall in love at your age though and think he's the one and its a great feeling being in love, its the best.

just keep your heart open though you never may know what can come your way.

Minnie hon..I just found this thread.
Sorry I was not online when you first posted it.
You have my love and hugs sent your way.
I feel the same pain that you do, and sometimes I miss him so much that I can't help but cry...like right now..
But just knowing that he loves me and that everything will work out the way it is supposed to brings me comfort.
I realize when you are young that the first flame of love burns the hottest, and honey it always will no matter what.
I found this beautiful poem, and I'd like to share it with you.

LESSONS LEARNED
Love is so very special
Yet can make you feel so lost
It can arrive just like the springtime
And melt away like morning frost
You must find ways to nurture
Always grow your love with care
Never ever take for granted
The love that you both share
Mistakes are bound to happen
You may hurt each other's heart
Yet don't give up to easily
It will tear your love apart
Love resembles a bright flame
That lights a dark starry night
Never ever let this flame burn down
Rekindle with all your might
Take a moment every day
Look deep into each other's eyes
Never hesitate to show affection
Small gestures will keep a love alive
Talk openly about your feelings
Take time to show that you care
Treasure each and every moment
Because to find true love is rare

Ya know's I luvs ya Minnie, and I'm here for ya.

I know that you miss him now and that it seems like you will never find another love like him again and that you miss him. That is how it is when something changes and you need to get used to it, whether it is moving and leaving behind a boyfriend or switching jobs or going off to college. Change needs getting used to. I know it seems awful now, but it will get better. Eventually you will look back on this and it won't hurt so bad. You will probably both move on and end up even more in love with the next person. We are to learn lessons when we are young, but because of our prospective and inexperience it hurts more and never makes sense. One day it will make sense and you will look back on this and you will think it was silly to even be in love with this boy. Believe me, I have been through it time and time again. I think about my first love sometimes and hope that he is okay, but I am sure he doesn't think of me and I am happier with where I am and who I am with now.

Well I remember when I was 16 (about two years ago haha) and I can tell you that teenage emotions change so fast and so often that its ridiculous. Maybe things will work out, and everything will be ok, but as much as you don't want to hear this, chances are they won't. But, either way, the only thing you can do is keep your head up and trudge forward.

Either way, all the best of luck to you.

Originally posted by minnie
But if you have any advice or something, I'd appreciate it!
-Minnie
[edit on 6-3-2009 by minnie]

Minnie, running away for example to join him only sets up a bad dynamic as well.

Your note touches my heart, because many years ago I was well was separated from a person what was beautiful whom I loved.

However this relationship has no guarantee of lasting any more then the next person you meet. However the love you have is terrific, isn't it nice to love and to be loved, and not empty. It is not "young love", it is "LOVE'. There is no young and old in love.

It is hard to say what the future has in store. Keep the desires in your mind for what you experienced, and that will attract more of the same be it him or another person. I know it sucks that you are dependent on your parents right now and not in complete control of you life. However do not see this as a lack, but see it as a nice thing.

I am sure it is frustrating, however the old saying, "let it go, and if it was yours it will come back to you". It is important not to feel the sense of lack, but the sense of possibility, and just keep from entering into any jealousy arguments over other people.

Trust me, there are many potential relationships that you will have the opportunity to have that some day you will never imagine your life without them.

I think it is great that you are loving.

Minnie, you got me out of hiding.

I understand what you're going through. Like others have said, if it was meant to be, it will. I wish I had time to say more. Try to look for the good side of everything. If you need anything, send me a U2U.

Remember, I'm always lurking.

What is love without loss?

Eventually things will get better. Can't promise though, as it takes some time

[edit on 20/4/09 by MacDonagh]