posted on Feb, 16 2009 @ 09:40 PM
when a small boy is "molested" ( a nice word for basically being raped),by say, his grandfather, society gets upset. They quietly indict the
grandfather and the family tries its best to keep it quiet. If they are courageous they may seek counseling. But when the skeleton is buried and no
one talks about it, it becomes a festering wound.
Society has advocates in place for these children through the justice system, but it stops there unless the family seeks out more treatment or
community services. Many times they don't want to be "reminded" of the problem.
Society looks at the small boy and is outraged at his treatment. But how many people really try to "help" the boy down the road, or openly discuss
the nature of sex and its consequences when it is considered a "bad" thing.
When the boy grows up to molest or rape, we aren't outraged by this time anymore at his treatment. Society expects that the boy would have "had a
chance" between the time he was molested and the time he came of age. We don't blame parents for it, it is the mans responsibility to have healed
himself. To have overcome it. To have sought out treatment and transformation of his sexual guilt into something more acceptable.
We look with ashamed sad eyes at the boy, but not the man. Until society heals its problems with how it views sex, bottom line, then there will always
be sexual guilt, sex used as a weapon, and sex used as a way to non conform.
It has been said that most alcoholics have some sexual guilt in their backgrounds.
Many times these "rapes" happen out of bars or during drunken states because they are "medicated".
They are angry at women, or at the world in general. They are lonely and they figure they should just take it then. Physical affection is important to
people, even when they think they are unlovable, and will "take" it if necessary.
I was a victim advocate and my caseload was something like 90% small boys.
Our attitudes about sex need to be healed first, then we need to rehabilitate the small boy, spend your money there first, and then when that doesn't
work, you can spend the money on prisons. Prevention is the best medicine right?