posted on May, 8 2007 @ 10:01 PM
The Ego. There are many beliefs about it. There is the strict psychological term, defined, flat. Then there are the sub definitions being applied by
many these days.
What I'd like to see is, "How do you define it?"
I'll go first.
To me, the Ego is all about comparison. It is not ego to say "I am great!" But when you compare yourself to someone else "I'm better than he is!"
Then that is Ego.
I think, it's a false idea. There are facts. Such as " I am taller than she is." or "He is a better driver than I am." However, we like to insert
a bunch of false ideas about keeping up with someone else.
This comparison is Ego. We have no say in where we are in relation to others. The only thing we can improve is the person we see in the mirror. Many
people want to be better at someone in this field or another. But unless you can control that person's life, you have no say in that.
The only person you should compete with is yourself. You are the reason for resistance, difficulty in your life. When you fight yourself in any area,
at any level, you are putting up walls between you and your goal. In martial arts, gymnastics, dance, pretty much any form of athletics, you battle
against yourself. Physical habits, inner doubts, excessive thought. You seek improvement.
When you worry about someone else, and not yourself, you are focusing on them, adding conflict. By worry I mean, wanting to impress others, or be
better. Instead, if you focus on improvement instead, you will find yourself having less difficulty progressing.
Ego is this thought that we can keep up with others. But that's false. All we can do is be better than we were. Some people have much more time
invested, work harder towards a goal, have more resources/time.. whatever the case may be. Keeping up with them may not be an option, and it's
frustrating when you don't see improvement in relation to them. The thing is, when you imrpove, others tend to improve, and while you don't close
the gap, you do get better.
The only ego exists in comparison. This form of pride. It is ok to be proud and happy about your accomplishments. However, when you want to put
yourself above someone else, then you are inserting ego, and in this, resistance.
It's like that episode of Simpsons. Flanders gets an RV, so Homer wants a bigger one. He's comparing himself to Ned, wants to feel superior. This is
Ego.
To me, Ego is false, only because it's Comparison, which is something that cannot be helped. The earth is smaller than the sun. Obviously. That is a
fact that cannot be changed.
However, there are things that WE can change in our lives. WE can improve, and by constantly improving, we will come to be better than most, in time.
If you are comparing yourself to others, saw you're doing a play or a routine, and you just can't get what you're supposed to do right. You get
angry, it makes it worse. Rather than accepting that you make mistakes, you build tension, ie: More resistance.
If you would instead take practice as the opportunity to improve, you won't dread it, and will see much faster progress. Once you're not fighting
yourself, you will see positive change come in like an unbelievable dream.
In my thought, Ego=Comparison= False Concept.
How do you define it?