Looking for Advice From the Collective

This is regarding my 19 year old step daughter and not myself. I rarely, if ever, remember my dreams so I am not very well suited to help her out with this.

Some background about her: 19 years old, very intuitive, strong empath abilities

So, she just had a dream about her grandpa (my significant other's father) being found dead on the couch. Looked like he went to sleep and didn't wake up.

He is almost 75. Had a massive heart attack about 8 years ago. Suffered with colon cancer. Kidneys were a bit of a concern. Within the last couple of weeks, he's gotten great reports from the VA, his cardiologist and his kidney specialist. He also just got the all clear from his ongologist. So health wise, he is looking pretty darn good.

So... Why is this dream of some concern?
Like stated earlier, she is VERY intuitive and has had dreams about several others in the family passing shortly before they passed. Only 1 was significantly ill at the time of their passing. She feels like she could have stopped the others from passing away had she been proactive or something. Now that she had this dream about her grandfather, she doesn't know what to do. She is scared that she has foreknowledge of something happening and won't do what she needs to do to get him the help he needs.

I can only imagine that it's a very heavy burden for a barely adult to carry around. I've noticed, in the past, that when she wants to spend all her time with relatives that she normally wouldn't or hadn't been spending time with, they don't last much longer than a few more weeks. It wasn't until recently that her mother told me that she thought it was crazy how she had dreams about everyone who had passed away in the last couple of years and how eerily close she was with what she'd seen in those dreams. I had no idea she'd had dreams about the others until then.

I guess I am just needing some advice on how to help her work through this, how to approach it, what we might be about to do to put her at peace with it. I understand what she's feeling, due to my own abilities, but the dream world has been out of my realm for so long that I don't know what to do to help her. So, members with more experience and expertise in this area, please help me help my girl.

Clearvoyance sucks, especially the phase where you ask yourself would it have happend if I did not see it...

I can't really give any good advice as my journey was a horrible horrible # show.

If she is mentally well and stable and has good self-esteem, she will get trough, no matter how

a reply to: Tanga36

In all reality everybody has to die sometime.

So if his time comes as she foresaw then she should take solace in the fact that it was peacefully in his sleep at home in good health and not in suffering. Most everyone if they could choose would select this exitace I'd imagine.

As for moving on within herself, maybe some exploration of clairvoyance abilities could provide fruitful and helpful to many appreciative souls.

Obviously refraining from informing grandpa would be beneficial to his frame of mind.

a reply to: Tanga36

Oh Boy, tough one Tanga. I think I would help her to understand that she’s been given a gift and an opportunity to spend some quality time with Grandpa before he leaves this Earth. Most people regret not spending more time with loved ones when they die unexpectedly. It’s not her duty or even in her control to try and change her Grandpa’s time to meet his maker, lol, so to speak. She certainly shouldn’t tell him about her dream, if it’s his destiny to die in his sleep, he’s lucky.

Help her plan a special Family visit and enjoy his company while you guys still can. God Bless.

a reply to: MountainLaurel

Best answer and I heartily agree. He has to die sometime, spend some time with him.

She may have sent this dream to herself from the future.

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I don't have much to add except what others have already said.
If she's grown up with this gift, then I guess she will handle it better if she just accepts it. Embracing it, I think, would help her feel more in control, and less like something is being done to her.

a reply to: Tanga36

Enjoy some time with Gramps.
Kinda nice having a heads up even if it is about Shiite things.
Yeah, I’d be glad for such a vision if it meant making some good memories before Gramps passed rather than missing out….
MOO

a reply to: Tanga36

In dreams death is rarely death (unless it is a premonition one).

Often death is more about rebirth.
At 19 she is entering in the next phase of her adult life. Her grandpa is completing his.
They obviously have a connection.

The gift she has isn't the ability to foresee a persons death, it's a by-product.
She needs to learn to channel it because there is no purpose to it otherwise.

a replTexty to: Tanga36

I am a 5th Generation "Sensitive" on my maternal side. Your daughter is not empathetic...but sensitive.

Not psychic, empathetically "sensitive".

I will help you as God commands. Contact me priv here.

God Bless

While she may have seen some precognitive scene, short of deliberate bad acts, there really isn't anything a person could or should do to try and interfere. It won't change the outcome.
These things are arranged, and death is not some terrible outcome as people tend to feel. As others have said, cherish the time. If it plays out as described, it sounds like a noble death.

a reply to: Tanga36

I have some personal experience with things like she is experiencing

But … the best way I can think of to put your concerns into context for you, and possibly her, is tell you a story from when I was 5 years old

My Mum and Dad had told me and my sister, that our Pop was very sick, and that we should try spend as much time with him as we can …

While we still have the opportunity

This had a fairly profound effect on me. Even thought I was only 5

Whenever we went to visit my Nan and Pop on weekends, I would make a point of sitting down on the ground next to my Pops chair in the lounge-room, where he would sit on oxygen, watching TV

I would sit there quietly with him, and watch whatever he was watching on TV

We didn't really talk much, because the oxygen mask made it hard for me to hear him, and it was fairly hard for him to speak anyway at the best of times

So I would just sit there, and occasionally he would scruff my hair or I'd give him a cuddle

I got my love for Rugby League from this. Watching his favourite team “The Parramatta Eels” with him, if they were playing

He gave me a pair of Parramatta Eels socks and I decided on that day, that Parramatta would be my team from then on too

Sometimes he would be watching the News

I was 5 years old. I hated the News!

But I loved my Pop. So I would sit there quietly with him, next to his chair, watching the News with him

Doing something far from the normal nature of a 5 year old

Because I knew what was coming. And somehow I understood that I wouldn't get many more chances like I was getting

Then one morning at home, Dad called me and my sister in to tell us that Pop had died

He hugged both of us, and my sister bawled her eyes out

I remember hugging my Dad, and for some reason, I wasn't sad

At the time, as a 5 year old who didn't properly understand his own emotions, I thought there was something wrong with me

Why wasn't I crying?

I knew I was supposed to be crying, but I wasn't. Why wasn't I?

I ended up pretending to cry. Because I thought that is what I was supposed to do

It wasn't until much later in life that I understood why I didn't cry when I found out

It wasn't because there was something wrong with me. It was because I had been letting go of my Pop for most of the year, before he died

I had been getting used to the idea of not seeing him again, every time I saw him

I didn't run off to play when I got to my Nan and Pops house. I would sit solemnly with him, and do things that you would normally find it impossible to get a 5 year old to do, like sit and watch the News

I didn't cry, because I had slowly, over time, found peace with what was going to happen

So that when it happened. There was no shock. And there was little sadness

If anything, I actually felt a little better, knowing that my Pop wasn't in pain any more. Because he had been so sick, for as long as I remembering knowing him. He must have been in so much pain

And now, he wasn't sick or in pain any more

I realised, that in some ways, I did this also when my Nan got sick with Lupus. I would lay down on the couch, with my head on her lap

And I would try give her as much love as I possibly could. While I still could. Because I likely would not get many more chances to do so

If she spends time with them, when she is worried about their health, it sounds like she might understand things a little better than you think she does

Sometimes, we see what is coming, to give us a chance to prepare for it. Not so we can try do something to stop it

If we know when the tide will turn, we can go fishing during the best light. And get the best from the time we have

We do not predict the turn of the tide, so that we can stop it from turning

What little can we do to stop time and nature? Even if we could manage to do everything within our power?

Not much

But, we can make the best of what is known

She seems to understand this

All she needs to do, is remember to see the beauty in the gifts she is being given

Not to look at them as a weight of responsibility, which isn't hers, beyond her ability to love however she can

If you give an image to the mind of someone who is unable to paint, it is far more likely given for them to know the beauty that is within it, to be seen, than it is for them to try and paint the image for others

I hope that makes sense

Also, it is important not to take credence in what you are being shown, as if it were/is the future

Tomorrow is not just set within the minds of those who experience it. It is also experienced by the minds who are set within it

It is very, very, important for her to understand the fluid nature of probability within all things. Especially within that she sees, such as these

Because seeing loss, doesn't always equate to impending loss

Sometimes, it can equate to something as simple as worry

Just because you worry you left the stove on, doesn't mean you did

But, it is always worth checking. Just in case

It is no different with things such as this. This is the best way to put it in context

We see something that “might” come to pass, and our mind tries to prepare us for such things. Exactly like a 5 year old boy watching the News with his Pop

People who are intuitive to things such as this, often feel sympathetic variance, and understand that people are ill. Even if they don't seem ill

Or, they can simply understand that someone is not in the greatest health. And worry

Probability, means that even things which seem certain, may be wrong

And even things which seem wrong, may end up certainty

Don't look towards something coming, which may very well not come to be

There is a term for such a thing. It is called “fear”

Fear, does not help within things such as this

A warning sign that sharks may swim in the waters, does not mean you are going to get bit

But, it can stop you from swimming, and possibly having the time of your life

This is fear

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Fear robs us of experience, where regret may have never lived

Worry robs us of beauty, where sorrow may actually have no place

Understand?

Be mindful of the dangers. But do not fear the unknown

Within the mind of those expecting to see darkness, is a place without light waiting to be seen

But ...

Once again, from what you have told me, I think if she is spending more time with them than normal, she might actually understand things a little better than you realise

Watch the video below

It is one of the best monologues I've ever heard, explaining the irrational nature of fear and worry

It might be of some help to her, or yourself, in giving context

I can likely give her more context relating directly to intuition, but only if she may/might have specific questions she feels she needs answered, about how it works. I'll send you an email contact in a message (as I assume she is not a member of ATS), that she can use if any of this helps and she wants to ask things specifically. Or, feel free to pass on messages through ATS

I hope it be of comfort to know that once he passes on, he'll be Home.

God bless.