Nasty Vs Nice

Here are some facts of life . They may help some to avoid entangling with unwanted and unhelpful encounters like getting bayonetted by the military, or tied to a despicable woman .

There really are ONLY two types of people .

Some , are to varying degrees , nasty .

And others to varying degrees , are nice .

When you think about it , it's an age old and clear division of character traits .

In the Bible for example you have the wicked ...or in other words the iniquitous greedy selfish covetous prideful thieves liars and cheats : all of them nasty .

And on the other hand , (when there is NO middle ground ) you have the just the upright the righteous the fair the peaceable the trustworthy and the truthtellers , the pure of heart : all of them nice.

Modern psychology tends to give nasty people an excuse , some kind of diagnosed disorder to attribute their character traits , for example aspd ( anti social personality disorder ) or just plain narcissism.

There are ALOT of narcissists in the world , all of them are nasty , and helplessly so.

Modern psychology also tends to give the nice people who suffer from the nasty ones, some diagnostic typecast for their symptoms , like executive function disorder , when they've had quite enough and are tending to think of giving up.

But bollocks to modern psychology because it doesn't have ANY answers on how , if you're nice and suffering from someone nasty , to cope change or help yourself out of the situation. Bar 'leave' and that's not an option for many. It's probably why they tend to always talk of men solely as domestic aggressors , when actually women are often just as bad, if not worse.

You know there's videos and websites with qualified persons which claim they know how to defeat a narcissist , but literally ALL they do is describe the very typical problems nasty people present. Appealling to the admirations of the naive but nice , because their problem is recognised , what a relief . They're not alone , not going mad .
BUT for those slightly wiser , listening carefully for validation of said claims made (to know the answers of what to do and how ) there is repeatedly almost nothing. The claims of psychologists are FALSE ... what they do is direct you to another psychologist , which you'd probably have to pay for and won't solve anything either .

No one really has the answers to it , literally no one. They pass the buck.

It's an age old problem , remember it : only two types of people . Nasty or nice .
And how does religion solve it , since they recognis e this fundamental division of modus operandi in life , or what of the very holy books themselves ?

You can be quite certain there's some nasty people in religions , usually running them in some way . But as for the good like in David 's Psalms or Solomon's Proverbs , remembering they were not religious bigots but originators of moral teaching , what do they recommend ?

Let's have a quote from proverbs chapter 2

 My son, if thou wilt receive my words, and hide my commandments with thee;

2 So that thou incline thine ear unto wisdom, and apply thine heart to understanding;

3 Yea, if thou criest after knowledge, and liftest up thy voice for understanding;

4 If thou seekest her as silver, and searchest for her as for hid treasures;

5 Then shalt thou understand the fear of the Lord, and find the knowledge of God.

6 For the Lord giveth wisdom: out of his mouth cometh knowledge and understanding.

7 He layeth up sound wisdom for the righteous: he is a buckler to them that walk uprightly.

8 He keepeth the paths of judgment, and preserveth the way of his saints.

9 Then shalt thou understand righteousness, and judgment, and equity; yea, every good path.

10 When wisdom entereth into thine heart, and knowledge is pleasant unto thy soul;

11 Discretion shall preserve thee, understanding shall keep thee:

12 To deliver thee from the way of the evil man, from the man that speaketh froward things;

13 Who leave the paths of uprightness, to walk in the ways of darkness;

14 Who rejoice to do evil, and delight in the frowardness of the wicked;

15 Whose ways are crooked, and they froward in their paths:

16 To deliver thee from the strange woman, even from the stranger which flattereth with her words;

17 Which forsaketh the guide of her youth, and forgetteth the covenant of her God.

18 For her house inclineth unto death, and her paths unto the dead.

19 None that go unto her return again, neither take they hold of the paths of life.

20 That thou mayest walk in the way of good men, and keep the paths of the righteous.

21 For the upright shall dwell in the land, and the perfect shall remain in it.

22 But the wicked shall be cut off from the earth, and the transgressors shall be rooted out of it.

Overall the words of Solomon tend to simply put off the problem till later , relying upon to God to mete out judgement which is probably sensible. But they give good advice here : understand the ways of the nasty and avoid them , believe in some protection from the nasty but use discretion to side step their attacks. Don't trust a flatterer because of snares hide books meanmen who would cast scorn on yo having it , the ignorant and selfish know it alls I hate them. And HOW LONG will it be God theres too many of them and I'm sick to death of waiting . Get rid of them , honestly , stick them ALL down in hell , now please . Is this an acceptable prayer ?

It's easier when things are in plain black and white. If you're nasty in life we hate you we can't wait for you to get your just desserts . Hurry up and literally f off down a hole . And don't come back . Leave the earth to it's rightful inheritors , the mild who would feel fear and guilt to have done your evils .

Maybe, the many books of the believers worldwide ( take the simple concept of karma as a direct similitude ) don't have the solution , in your opinion or
that of others . So for people still stuck trying to answer how to psychologically deal with nasty people you can't get away from and the problems they force you into having to cope with , like anxiety or needless losses , what's your better idea to solve this age old juxtaposition ? Dissonance , it causes angst and anger , sometimes boiling rage like is going on with the rioters . Theyre sick of having lived with evil bigot racists in charge of their very justice faculties , had enough of the farce which calls itself society police law and governance . But what they're doing isn't solving it either , it makes it worse to argue . The bigots just get worse . That's what I've learned .

Get rid of them God , all the nasty people in the world , asap ... "cut the wicked off from the earth and root the transgressors out of it."

As for the actual advice here , be careful of them BEFORE you run into another nasty person. EXPECT people to be nasty narcissists . Have some understanding of this and use your discretion , as per quoted source.

a reply to: DoctorBluechip

"People you can't get rid of" - really???? - ever heard of walking away or a little thing called solidarity.

"Listening for validity" - a non godly/ non christian trait.
"I hate them" - you say - a non godly/ non christian trait.
"F off down a hole" you say - a non godly/ non christian trait.

I could go on but the point is clear.

Seems the nasty in this case has decided to author hypocrisy. And a great job indeed, this would be for me one of those "unhelpful encounters" you seem to think you understand.

My GF can do some really nasty stuff, which this Dumbass thinks is really nice.

a reply to: DoctorBluechip

I'm an atheist so that's not for me.
But I will say that for those that believe in God, you were created by him with the flaws he gave you.

He created all that we are so to speak..

As I understand it, the bible is only a guide.
What you choose to do will be judged in the end.

originally posted by: CthruU
a reply to: DoctorBluechip

"People you can't get rid of" - really???? - ever heard of walking away or a little thing called solidarity.

"Listening for validity" - a non godly/ non christian trait.
"I hate them" - you say - a non godly/ non christian trait.
"F off down a hole" you say - a non godly/ non christian trait.

I could go on but the point is clear.

Seems the nasty in this case has decided to author hypocrisy. And a great job indeed, this would be for me one of those "unhelpful encounters" you seem to think you understand.

Like worms our of woodwork here come accusations. Not entitled to feelings apparently , etc
It's provoked a response but what is their solution ? Attack , damage threaten .

Walk away ? That's already discussed , how does one walk away from a captor ? Or have you never been kept a captive ?

Solidarity , is written off by both psychology and time honoured texts

Christianity is a non issue , god was called in here.

What's the difference between " cut them off from the earth " and " hurry up down a hole. None ,bits the same sentiment , a private solution . Made public in this case and it's incensed someone at least. You don't know the proverbs too well.

And who made you the diviner of what's ' godly ' , whatever that means ?

You are over-simplifying people. Things are not so black and white. Life would be easier if it were, but I and many other people are flawed humans capable of great kindness or great evil. The key it to always try to be better.

a reply to: Metallicus
No it comes down to nice or nasty : that's the last judgement , left or right hand , goats and sheep , one pen or the other , very simple.

There's a point when what's done is done , no changing sides some of us have been long suffering for that . Would you let Dr Mengele out of it , no. Never done anything evil myself , not in knowledge of it anyway.

But some people a lot of them have done some real nasty # keep doing it , won't ever stop . There's a point where unchanging condemnation or forgiveness over rules it all.

If they repent and make amends , well and good , but whole swathes of nasty buggers are never going to do that.

Only thing that counts against their harsh judgement is what God taught Jonah , that alot if people have just been thick (" not knowing their right hand from their left" : Jonah chapter 3).
I'm with Jonah though , nasty people need a hammering and wiping off the face of the earth. There's many more creatures here on this earth than just these overdeveloped primates.

Nasty little chimps , time to get rid , no your good self though I'm sure , trying to see the get out clause for them . Capable of going down a hole early, that's what the nasties should learn and fast

No, no. Not "nice or nasty," it's passive versus aggressive. Male versus female.

What we're arguing about is as old as time itself. Do we approach the problem from a perspective of using force to solve a problem and "win," or do we use persuasion and negotiation so that everybody feels that their needs and concerns have been addressed with a "solution" that benefits everybody the most, even if it doesn't make everybody 100% happy?

a reply to: Bluntone22

Kinda. But there is always the late and disheveled public defender who somehow arrives on time and offers a plea. Not for you, but to you. "Let me represent you to my father who is God" and I will win, because I never fail to defend the worthy or righteous.

Now, do you take that help? I think hubris often blocks the listener from taking the offer (or even hearing it as an honest plea). That is unfortunate, obviously, but also (somehow) part of the plan.

I know where I place my trust and faith and I rarely go to "church."

a reply to: DoctorBluechip

"There really are ONLY two types of people .

Some , are to varying degrees , nasty .

And others to varying degrees , are nice ."



I can be a little or a lot of both.
It depends.
But I don't fit into a neat little box.
I'm by no means an evil person.

Follow the Golden Rule, and it's hard to go wrong.
The biggest problem most people would seem to have, IMHO, is that they can't confront themselves, be honest with themselves in the face of what they believe is wrong, and just overall have no honor or principles or the wherewithal or strength to stand by them in the face of adversity.
So many are quick to cave to a narrative that suits them. Critical thinking takes too much work.
Most would rather be told what to think or feel.
Saves time for whatever ego impulse device/pleasure to feed them that steady stream of endorphins. Hooray us!
People need to wake up.

little devil one shoulder little angle on the other is it lol .
two wolfs dont give a darn about bad or good only about which wolf will get the ( usaly ) Girl .
2 humans dont give a darn about good or bad and through away any so called Morals on the drop of one guy getting killed by a cop .
A guy who just gave them the excuse they wanted to go be the wolves they are .
Religion morals working together is a veneer that is a Luxury that is shrugged off at the first sing of strife .

Ps and ladys enjoy your equality the real reason you never stop pushing for more is because you Know this falls and the Only way you live is being protected by a man or men ( yea yea I know rembo female style ) like i say enjoy your equality its a luxury as well .
O if ladys if you have any real complainants about equality complain to god after all God made Man in his image and only made women when adam gripped about no nukky .