I think I really need female advice... what am I doing wrong :/

a reply to: Flyingclaydisk

Maybe the real answer here, for the OP, is to get a dog! Dogs are better than people! They just are!

Just sayin!

Agreed.

a reply to: grey580

That kind of stuff is just crazy-fun! It doesn't matter if you suck.

My wife and I took a neighbor widow (and some guy she likes from bowling) to to the paint and pour thing. It was a hoot and a half! Everybody had a blast, it was only about 4 hours, and it was in the morning (nothing like drinking wine in the morning, right?). We didn't get hammered or anything, but we all made some kind of a "masterpiece"...most of which looked NOTHING like what we were supposed to paint...but so what??? It was fun.

And, those two still see each other, which is nice.

a reply to: VeeTNA

If the OP doesn't already have one (a dog), it is strongly recommended. Puppies are a great conversation starter...PROVIDED you really want said puppy (and NOT just for a conversation piece!)

Personally, I couldn't live without dogs. We had to send one of my beloved Labs across Rainbow Bridge this past summer, and everyone (dogs and peeps were sad to see her pass), but we still have two other furry kids...and they are the BEST!

Every day, they warm my heart...every single day!

a reply to: Flyingclaydisk

We have four right now....
Started with an adoption from a military family being deployed - a little mutt sheltie/king charles/aussie -

animals heal the heart.
Horses too

Get outside...do you, in nature....

a reply to: flice

Which one cooks better?

originally posted by: flice
No no its fine... any advice at this point is good. I just had the idea that there might be some ladies who had been on the other side of the table that could give some input on situations where it all sounded good on text but the fizzled out.

I honestly think my worst time is now.. I have a great job and sweet kids but my emotions are shot to # :/

All got for you is stay out of the friend zone nothing good comes from it.

a reply to: Bluntone22

Good to hear that you are happy and successful with your relationship.

a reply to: Flyingclaydisk

It is fun. We went once for a party. I painted on hell of a branch with flowers on it.

Take a woman to go see Tom Papa. If she laughs, she's a keeper.

Get off dating apps. Those things are for chicks to sell themselves.

Meet people in person. When you see a woman who you find to be attractive let her know. Just ask her what her name is. Introduce yourself. Say you like her shoes or hair or something. Ask her if she would like to go do something fun sometime.

If she says no, then say "That's cool. Have a good one."

If she says yes, then spot on mate.

Let it flow naturally. Be yourself.

a reply to: VeeTNA

Get outside...do you, in nature....

Me??? Ummm, yeah, a "little" bit! LOL!!

We have cattle! It's like the postal service...not wind, nor rain, nor snow... well you get it.

I'm the one who's slept in stock trailers with newborn calves in the blowing snow to keep them alive, gone out under any conditions, any time, day or night to make sure everyone is okay.

Outside in nature??? Yeah...maybe a little! LOL!!!

Ahem...LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL!!! **smackin' leg** LOLOLOL!!

I'd rather be outdoors than indoors!

Do you reek of wanting to get laid?

a reply to: flice

You aren't doing anything wrong. Just because you "click" online doesn't mean you will "click" in person.

The in-person vibe is what matters.

Things will happen as they must. And it takes time.

Hell, even if you click in person it might not work.

originally posted by: Homefree
Take them fishing nekkid.
Get a bottle of hooch and take a wermern fishing nekkid.
Trust me. It works.

What kinda bait would you recommend ?
You know: other than the hooch...

hang in there bud. Think of just doing more out of your comfort zone stuff

a reply to: flice

Hi Flice. Seems like you're getting more guys' opinions, than ladies'.
Oh well: here's another ... LoL !

Lot's of great advice so far.
Don't change !
Stop thinking that it's something in you, that is not perfect.
You are the universe's, or God's, most perfect example of 'you' possible.
You are awesome, and you rock !

At some point: perhaps not of your choosing; a partner will appear.
Just be frank and honest.
Except for horniness: don't even give a hint about it. Don't worry: you'll find your match, eventually.

As for online dating: well; many others condemn it, but met my woman online, so ...
And that was after a lot of trial, and experimentation...

Went through the self-doubt as well: is it me ? What's wrong with me ? What must be improuved ? What must change ?
But that's not the path, to finding a partner.

You are precious. You are no thing, at all.
Just let it be.
Jed McKenna - All Will Arrive.:

originally posted by: Trueman

Which one cooks better?

WRONG THREAD?

www.abovetopsecret.com...

From my own personal experience, sound like you ain't treating them like crap an showing to much interest.

And by crap, I mean showing you can do better, they are optional, you having other possibilities, you a once in life time catch, let them call you an tell you busy, etc.

Dont know why it is this way, but it is. This is from a male btw. Also dont buy em #.

originally posted by: flice
Age wise Im 40... first date was 37 with two kids as well. Second date was 48 (she picked me...) with two grown up kids.

Don't ask for women's advice...(Sorry/not/sorry Ladies). But each woman is different and will tell you very different things. I never really looked to men for advice, but in cases like dating you need to learn to be yourself and if that is heterosexual in your case that means being a man.

Learn you and what you want in a woman. Be that man around women, do the things you like to do sounds silly and simple, but you will attract a good mate by being you more than you will think. Doing the things you are interested and being who you are brings with it the assurance that other person likes and wants to be with you, for you!

Good luck and keep your stick on the ice!

I'm gonna say something that might sound a bit harsh but you probably need to hear.

- Don't go on a date at first, never do this. Go for coffee, you pay for both. You're out like what 10-12 dollars at most.
- Don't use apps. Period. Done.
- Be fun and engaging when you do meet new ladies. Don't focus on anything negative. Positive and upbeat are you first and last names.
- Confidence.... if you got it, you're good. If you don't women can see/smell/taste/6th sense it.
- Hobbies... do them. Male friends... make sure you have some and you do stuff with them.
- Gym... got it? Go 3 times a week.
- Don't give up any of the above when you do start dating. If you focus solely on a woman that's a recipe for disaster.
- Take some time for yourself, a few months at least. Be yourself and understand yourself before you date another woman.

I pretty much followed those after a bad breakup I had in China, I met my wife a few months later. We got married 6 months almost to the day after we met. Together for 9 years, across 2 countries, 4 cities, 2 promotions, 2 kids, 1 rabbit (who survived) and US green card process. Still happy and doing good.

Hopefully we survive Coronoa Virus.

originally posted by: hopenotfeariswhatweneed

originally posted by: flice
No no its fine... any advice at this point is good. I just had the idea that there might be some ladies who had been on the other side of the table that could give some input on situations where it all sounded good on text but the fizzled out.

I honestly think my worst time is now.. I have a great job and sweet kids but my emotions are shot to # :/

All got for you is stay out of the friend zone nothing good comes from it.

This explains a lot