No we can't , yes we can - enemies of certain relationships

What is it that the presupposed "illuminati" or indeed the 'established elite' might have against age-gap relationships ? We're talking adults only here of course .
The millenial generation has been installed with some strange ideas quite alien to common sense , for example the idea that someone under 26 years old simply 'cannot' or 'could not' become involved romantically with someone who's 42 or so .
Then again the millenials seem to know a whole plethora of 'can't's' when in fact of course you can . It's been said they know full well how to not get sacked but often turn up no good at actually doing some work .

When it comes to age gap relationships , society is full of frowns , "how strange" s , and "it shouldn;t be"s . Word is , that online dating sites routinely exclude the youngers from the olders and vice-versa . So they can't communicate , even to extent of physically blocking the exchange of mail .

So then ... why is that ? Where and how has it been installed in us to give up on the mixing of age groups and genders ? It may find it's roots in the anti-family traits of modern western states , in economic separation for the purposes of deeper exploitation of the workforce as individuals split from blood ties , and split from family and community ethics , to divide from cultural roots and natural necessities as has been the notion in the forced participation of labour . Most people have no idea how far these things hae gone , the lengths they have to design your lives .

Furthermore , it does serve the purpose of splitting down people's relationships for advanced capitalist economics to deny age gap relationships . For first and foremost consider the realities - an older male or female partner has already gained over years in experience , assets , funds , contacts , living arrangements , transport considerations , local knowledge etc etc all of which would likely be shared with a partner who had less of these attributes simply from being younger . Think of the advantages an older partner is likely to bestow to the younger inlater years .

In days gone by , those of chivalry and feudal serfdom , older ladies tended to become the keepers of castles and mansion houses belong to the crown , and oftentimes their suitors would be younger , fitter , stronger , able to defend her . And if not , a new one would be sought . By necessity these were beneficial but nonetheless also romantic sexual relationships in a similar manner , and beneficial relationships are what you want , not just adequate arrangements .

What a younger partner could/can bring to steady relationships which can still exist in this age is energy , a fresh point of view , friends from diferent social groups and some spirit of renewal . If she for example gained from overall wiser guidance then so would a child benefit , perhaps also taking a larger or more welcome inheritance . Energy not controlled but directed wisely gains results , fruitful benefits of collaboration with different generations.

So explicitly speaking , why would they say , "No you can't" , why would it become a frowned upon taboo when actually it's a good idea ?

Because they don't want you to , that is why .
Why do;t they want you to ? - Because they can;t exploit you as easily if they let you

Why can't they exploit you as easily ? - Because you're not in such a vulnerable position as before . You have crossed a purposefully created social divide and hence have a wider support base .

How would this have been instituted in the Western civilisations ? It's a question of historical social engineering . Consider marriage - polygamy is - kind of- illegal . You're expected , to marry a contemporary peer . That's because of the church , christians . Because of that factor you have the days of the week , and education . So partly we're stuck in a foregone conclusion . But you not being allowed to break out of it easily , its suits the modern capitalist ethos to keep you in bondage of some kind - this kind being spoken of today .

Those around you will be the trouble to you at first , if you started an age gap relationship of any significance . The yes we can had better win over all the no you can'ts , or forget it . A relationship or individual perhaps driven into embarrassment , secrecy, isolation, confinement and even legal disputes and violent assaults has to find it's own ways to survive , especially with the constant twitter of media socialites , the overlookings of various peers and their sometimes aspic attitudes . You need to make it survive effectively saying 'hard-cheese' to the rest .

It's supposed the way to end should be to say , f-em , you know ? If that's what floats your boat , even if just for the time being , then so be it , don;t let anyone say you can't when really , you CAN . There is no reason for it not to be if you don;t let 'them' get to it first . Give it 6 months , they'll get used to it . It's happened before , will do again . Then again if you're young , then be careful . There are wolves in sheeps clothing to beware of too , don't just go trusting anyone , but just because someone's older doesn't make them any meaner . Mean people are often born mean . You can tell if someone is kind . Keep an even keel and an open mind is probably the best advice , and don't be held back by the jealous or iniquitous .

I knew someone in an 'age gap relationship' she was in her early twenties he was 50 something. He liked to choke her and make her call him daddy.....
And apparently he couldn't get it up...so he'd just # her with random objects.

a reply to: DoctorBluechip

The world is chock full of these romances so I don't think your theory really holds water.

Are you a 42 year old rejected by a 26 year old; or vice-versa?

I've always dated older men. Works great for me.

originally posted by: dug88
I knew someone in an 'age gap relationship' she was in her early twenties he was 50 something. He liked to choke her and make her call him daddy.....
And apparently he couldn't get it up...so he'd just # her with random objects.

He should have tried Viagra.

a reply to: dug88

I call bull . Which one did you know ?

originally posted by: DoctorBluechip
a reply to: dug88

I call bull . Which one did you know ?

I don't know if dug is making that up, but I will say that what he describes is out there...I wouldn't say it's common, but it's definitely not rare.

originally posted by: DoctorBluechip
What is it that the presupposed "illuminati" or indeed the 'established elite' might have against age-gap relationships ? We're talking adults only here of course .
The millenial generation has been installed with some strange ideas quite alien to common sense , for example the idea that someone under 26 years old simply 'cannot' or 'could not' become involved romantically with someone who's 42 or so .

Your talking an age range difference of approx 20 or so years ..... It would be like

sampling the adult world with someone in the age range of their mother/father.

I dont see the common sense in that!!!

Then again the millenials seem to know a whole plethora of 'can't's' when in fact of course you can . It's been said they know full well how to not get sacked but often turn up no good at actually doing some work.

If the employer is prepared to pay out for work not done...bigger fool them.

When it comes to age gap relationships , society is full of frowns , "how strange" s , and "it shouldn;t be"s . Word is , that online dating sites routinely exclude the youngers from the olders and vice-versa . So they can't communicate , even to extent of physically blocking the exchange of mail

Most of the females I know that have met up with men off these sites say the

men are hard to recognise the pics are at least 10 years old. Oh I have looked

with someone registered on a couple of sites and seen men on the sites who are

married or in a couple. All is not always what it seems!!

An older male or female partner has already gained over years in experience , assets , funds , contacts , living arrangements , transport considerations , local knowledge etc etc all of which would likely be shared with a partner who had less of these attributes simply from being younger . Think of the advantages an older partner is likely to bestow to the younger inlater years .

A for instance......

A woman of 22 marries a man of 42. She has two children in the next five years

They nurture the children to 18/20 years. The woman is now about 47yrs and

some would say in her prime..... The man is 67 yrs retired and tired and expects

her to look after him as he enters old age?????

So explicitly speaking , why would they say , "No you can't" , why would it become a frowned upon taboo when actually it's a good idea ?

For Who?

I'm a millennial, I've dated older and younger.
I don't see age as a factor, only personality, intellect etc.

Doesn't matter how old you are, if you're mentaly compatible as well as physically... Well then go for it.

I knew girls in my age group that dated 32 year-olds when they were 16...
I just think you've been hanging out with the wrong people.

Girls with daddy issues will always be around.