For the Men.

A lot of programming has been saying the opposite to youth since the 80's... of course; I think that has actually empowered and strengthened women, but yet at the expense of breaking up the family unit.

Not the traditional sort however; those of strength that will not settle for any old tripe or baggage that comes with it... those that will are due to the afore mentioned; programming a trope and a troop of followers.

When a herd goes around; it is fenced in corralled and then sold off to slaughter... what else would a good shepherd do; other than open the door to humbly let another lead the way in, step out of another's on the out; as others come in. Push a chair back in place; aiding those working and those yet to arrive...

Being a good patron; is not patronizing.



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CHIVALRY, one of man’s greatest impulses, is a noble thing.

In today’s more secularist world where women are less Romanized and more madly objectified, Chivalry may be less appreciated from male and female perspectives.

That may be good and bad since it may indicate progress for women; being less dependent on men, yet from no perspective can a world of less Chivalric duties be a better world.

a reply to: LordOfDestruction
Yes it is an odd thread, most especially in fact that now a days when your out and about most doors are automated, at the grocery store, in malls, even a lot of daily stores and even work. So since a lot of doors open by themselves, now women wont have to trouble themselves to find a guy to open it for them.

But on to more important things. I have never ever heard of timbits, I have never seen any of those around here, then I went onto Safeway website and typed in timbits. Nothing came up, WTF. What gives? How come I have never heard of these things before and why are there are no timbits near me?

If this not justify invading Canada I don't know what does. In this day and age of commerce and fast travel, this is a travesty.

As if all the illegal crossing going isn't destructive to the environment.

a reply to: zosimov


When I was a kid, my mother always used to say soap was cheap and good manners cost nothing. In other words we have no excuse for being smelly or rude.

Thank you OP, its nice to be noticed..

Sadly this truly decent nature is fading away by the day, I was brought up to say please and thank you, to offer my seat if someone needed it more, to open doors for people struggling and to be decent and kind to others. None of this is based on putting people down in anyway, its purely a kind helpful nature, if I offer my seat its to a man or woman because they need it more than me but yes, if there's a pregnant woman standing there I know she's likely to be more comfortable sitting down, so of course, I offer my seat. Yet these days I've offered my seat to a person in need and you watch a fight emerge of perfectly ok people trying to get to the seat ahead of the needy person, being me I stop them and make sure it goes to the right person but most would just watch and let it be taken.

Also I've seen a trend where some women say "I don't need your help" or "Are you trying to put me down", and with heavy heart I just say "I was just trying to help", it saddens me that decent manners are now seen as some sort of feminist attack, its certainly not meant that way on my part.

Also it grieves me that the elderly are so scared of younger people now, it hurts that they are indeed scared with good reason to be afraid of the youth. I've told this story before but its right for the thread, I was visiting an older friend who we have known for around 40 years, after I left Bob to go home I wandered to my car and behind me heard something hit the floor. I turned around and there was a very elderly lady on the floor, I went over towards her and the look on her face was pure terror, seeing that I instantly reassured her that I was here to help, and helped her up after making sure she was able to stand. I picked up her bags and said I'd walk her to her main entrance to the flat she lived in and did this, when we got there I said "do you need me to caryy the bags up the stairs" and again she looked in terror and said NO, so I made sure she was ok and said goodbye and went home. About a half hour after I got home I got a call form Bob who was with this poor old lady as they were friends, he thanked me for helping her and the lady also thanked me and explained that she didn't know if I was going to mug her, I said that I was just taught to help anyone in need and she thanked me, apparently she had been targeted by drug dealers who lived in the same block.

To be honest I wanted to cry at that point, how could any one target a poor old lady and then it sank in just how bad the human rave has sank to in some cases, basic morals are gone, basic decency also gone, good manners down the same hole.

But that won't stop me from carrying on the way I am, I refuse to bow down to the slime in society and the utterly strange new ideals over gender etc, I respect people who want to be different but I'm not going to quiz myself about how I should talk to a person in case they are triggered, (a term I dislike) I'm me, a kind and polite by nature person, if that isn't good enough then tough luck and the worlds gone mad.

Paul..

That's right men, you just need to be a Supreme Gentleman™ and a Nice Guy™. Nothing wets a girls panties faster than a Nice Guy™ holding the door for them.

a reply to: Talorc


So I don't really need to make them a Roofie-tini?

a reply to: Talorc

Nothing wrong with treating each other with honor and respect.

a reply to: zosimov

Problem is, in most cases men treat women with "honor and respect" for one reason alone (and you know what that is), but their strategy doesn't work. Women can sniff out their intentions from a mile off and are instinctually repulsed by it, because it smells like weakness. Meanwhile the guy who ignores them, doesn't give them any special treatment, teases them like children, and just doesn't give a f*ck what they think, is far more successful with the ladies.

Women intentionally give faulty advice about what they really want. Look at their actions and what they really desire, not what they say they desire.

Otherwise Supreme Gentlemen™ would be getting laid and not shooting up schools out of frustration.

a reply to: Talorc

I think that the impulse is nobler than one might think. Yes, sex is a driving force that we just cannot ignore, but we also have a higher aspect to our nature.

Those two gentlemen who stopped on their busy ways at the airport to see if I needed help were following their higher instincts.
The same trip (return trip) the man in the seat next to me took my son (very chubby 6 month old) into his arms when we took off.
Gentlemen exist, chivalry exists.
It is a shame that we (men, women) often ignore that which is in our best interests. But it's never too late to start honoring our higher selves!

This is a beautiful post as god knows I love basically all men, even the mean ones, but specially the really smart kind and generous ones.

Love,
Lou!

originally posted by: zosimov
a reply to: Talorc

I think that the impulse is nobler than one might think. Yes, sex is a driving force that we just cannot ignore, but we also have a higher aspect to our nature.

Well that depends on age. My sex drive died about 5 years ago. We had a funeral. Doesn't stop me from good manners though.

originally posted by: Talorc
a reply to: zosimov
Otherwise Supreme Gentlemen™ would be getting laid and not shooting up schools out of frustration.

This sentence is so very wrong. Js.

originally posted by: geezlouise

originally posted by: Talorc
a reply to: zosimov
Otherwise Supreme Gentlemen™ would be getting laid and not shooting up schools out of frustration.

This sentence is so very wrong. Js.

How so?

Now that I am a senior citizen,I love having younger people
call me ma'am.Some walk me out to my car when I buy groceries.
Others keep an eye on me at work when I am standing on a
step stool.In return they get homemade peanut butter fudge.

a reply to: intrepid

Was that about the time I made your Happy 50th Birthday thread?

originally posted by: mamabeth
a reply to: intrepid

Was that about the time I made your Happy 50th Birthday thread?

Yes. Maybe that wasn't a coincidence. MURDERER!

After reading through this thread I felt compelled to make an observation.

There are many posts that mention something like always being willing to help someone in need. Helping someone who needs help is an act of kindness. However, chivalry does not have that prerequisite. I am all for the act of kindness and I think its awesome that so many are willing to offer it. But chivalry is something beyond kindness. It is honor and respect, specifically from males to females, not for a specific reason or circumstance but just in general.

Women are the greatest gift ever given to this Earth. When a woman chooses you she is paying you a compliment for which there are no words. Women are one step shy of magical. You give them groceries and they give you a delicious meal. You give them a house and they give you a home. You give them an expression of love and they give you a family.

Chivalry isn't much to ask for in return.

originally posted by: Vroomfondel

Women are the greatest gift ever given to this Earth. When a woman chooses you she is paying you a compliment for which there are no words. Women are one step shy of magical. You give them groceries and they give you a delicious meal. You give them a house and they give you a home. You give them an expression of love and they give you a family.

Chivalry isn't much to ask for in return.

Sounds like complete nonsense to me. Does your girlfriend offer you an honorary once-a-year BJ when you say things like that, of course only after you spend your money buying her groceries and getting her a new house?