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originally posted by: zosimov
This is for all of the good men out there. If you have held on to that instinct to open the door for women, to help carry groceries or change a flat tire, if you have a soft spot for daughters, if you work hard to provide for your family, if you have maintained the urge to protect and defend women and childrenβ¦
Thank you.
I donβt think chivalry has been easy to maintain. Many women (including my past self) donβt want the special treatment or help. Or we donβt want to be a bother. Some women might be straight up hostile, suspicious, ungrateful. For whatever reason (and it changed for me over time, or instance to instance) I have turned down a lot of chivalric offers. To all the gentlemen out there, and to the women who want to be treated well by men, I am truly sorry for every rebuff.
I had a friend wisely point out that it makes good men feel good to help women. That men have it in their nature to care for women and children, and to never turn down offered help (obviously not from the creeps and not in a way I could endanger myself) from men.
And since that moment, I have always accepted chivalry from men, or in the least declined in a humble and grateful manner when I truly did not need the help.
For all of the dads out there (including my own, hard-working 75 year old dad, and my husband, who was a single dad to his daughter when I started dating him) thank you.
For the men who see women in need of help and stop to help, thank you. I remember when I was traveling with my son and too much luggage, and two different men stopped at the airport to see if I needed any help. I was touched by the gestures at a place where everyone is usually rushing to and from, or absorbed with travel, anxiety, excitement, etc.
Another night I was at my wits end trying to change a flat tire (I had jacked it up before loosening the lug nuts ugh) and I had my son with me, in the mountains (I had pulled off the main road into the parking lot of a chateau). A JUST MARRIED couple pulled up, still in their wedding clothes and about to check in to their hotel for the night, they saw I was in distress, and the groom jumped out of his truck and began to change my flat in his white wedding shirt. His beautiful bride, wearing a lace dress, a jean jacket and cowboy boots, went over and sat on the curb with my son to help calm him down.
This moment highlighted to me what is so beautiful about the masculine and feminine in our nature. What a blessed way for those two souls to begin a married life together.
I hope we can continue to honor and acknowledge the best impulses in our nature. There is a lot of division in the air but that is not the entire picture.
So, all that said, this one is for the men!
originally posted by: IgnoranceIsntBlisss
The sexism in this piece is outrageous!
originally posted by: AugustusMasonicus
originally posted by: zosimov
This is for all of the good men out there.
I hate getting shut out of a thread in the first sentence.
originally posted by: AugustusMasonicus
originally posted by: zosimov
This is for all of the good men out there.
I hate getting shut out of a thread in the first sentence.
originally posted by: Subrosabelow
Nice OP!
I'm a very small female type person, so I'm grateful that there are a few guys at work that will stop to help out if I'm struggling with something very heavy, like a wooden pallet or those large and heavy 65 inch tvs. The rest just keep on walking by. I feel awkward in asking for help though, like I'm bothering them and it's not their job.
Those women who get offended by a man offering assistance are idiots and so damned brainwashed by the warped version of "feminism" it's not even funny.
originally posted by: CreationBro
originally posted by: Subrosabelow
Nice OP!
I'm a very small female type person, so I'm grateful that there are a few guys at work that will stop to help out if I'm struggling with something very heavy, like a wooden pallet or those large and heavy 65 inch tvs. The rest just keep on walking by. I feel awkward in asking for help though, like I'm bothering them and it's not their job.
Those women who get offended by a man offering assistance are idiots and so damned brainwashed by the warped version of "feminism" it's not even funny.
Too true.
Women are, on average, shorter than most men. Fact. And there is not a single thing wrong with asking a taller man to grab an out of reach thing for you. Not a single thing wrong with it, and should not effect anyones pride or ego.
Nor is it wrong for a short man to ask a tall woman the same thing, with all of the aforementioned applied.
(My sister is 6'4, my pops is 6'8, my female cousin is even 6'6! And im the last male of our familial last name at 6'3 LMFAO).
If it makes anyone feel any better, my sister has, and always will be, taller than me.
I even asked my doc about it.
According to him, it is very rare for a male to be shorter than his female sibling(s). He went on to say that in way above average heights, it is virtually unheard of.
Guess my daddy is the milk man π