Here's a good one

So far all my relationships have ended with me catching my g/fs cheating. IDK why, but every g/f I have ever had has cheated on me, and thus we broke up. I would understand if it happened with one or two, but all of them. I pay for meals, movie tickets, take out/order in, I didn't push them to do anything they didn't want to do, I wasn't an ass or annoying or anything bad like that, and all of them cheated. Asked some female friends of mine and they say they don't know why either. Should I be worried that the only women that will go out with me will cheat? Kinda pisses me off, female frined of mine has been in a relationship with her g/f for over 3 years and never cheated on her, or vice versa. A male friend of mine has dated a girl, and now engaged, for over 4 years. Anyways, bored, it 3:31am and have nothing to do but cruise ATS/BTS/PTS so I figured I'd post here since I haven't yet.

UMMM.....for a couple of years it seems i only got into relationships with girls that ended up being PSYCHO! After a while i came to two conclusions
1) I am somehow selecting women that are crazy and ignoring the fact that they are just so the whole thing can crash and burn later.
2) I am somehow driving these women insane.

I like the first one better.........it helps me sleep at night *Sniff*, but really maybe your selecting women that are more likely to be a certain way ,out of self destruction? i solved this (i think i have)by going out with girls i normally wouldn't for a while, I am currently happy with a great gal now, but i'm still keeping an eye open for the psycho to come out.

girls will be girls... as the song goes, girls like guys with money... chapelle makes fun of this situation on his platinum comedy series...

Guys get the porche not for them but as the bait, they see a girl thats interested and yank! they got the chick..

girls will fall in love with what you have and use you at the same time all the while sneaking behind your back trying to find excitment...

not all girls do this but many do.

What you need to look for is a strong independant woman who can carry her own, who smiles at you before you open your wallet...

those kind of leeches, enjoy guys that are rude to them or make them feel low about themselves so they want them more...

It seems you are the opposite so they are the ones to step on you...

Option b is, you could always act like an ass and put em down and i'm sure they'd be kissing your feet and wanting you more.

women are weird, but the good ones believe in themselves and are out there trying to find the same quality in the opposite sex...

now go out there and look for the woman wearing the turtleneck sweater...

Turtle neck sweater? Where that come from? Although I do see your point, about the car/wallet deal. Maybe should tell them I only pay for them because it the right thing to do, not because I am loaded. Might work. But bnl makes sense to, just happen to attract a certain type of woman more then others. Well, main problem is I attract lesbians to me, why, I don't know, but when I went to school every freaking lesbian was friends with me. Maybe that says something about me, IDK. It was strange, when two of them would break up and both call me to cry or whatever.

well I felt that i had to change the paterns within myself to change the paterns i went through in life. Hope things turn out good for you.

maybee you are going to the wrong places to meet women mr James? What kind of Women do you like?


peace.

yes..I see now ..why you attract lesbians and the women cheat on you .
no problem.
And borednlazy is correct..you must learn to spot the patterns and change them if you want the results.
You are doing something wrong in your performance...your trying out for approval from women..they see you as a easy mark..not as a man who inspires confidence...a friend...not a leader. Women respond to confidence...not friendship ..per se in a relationship. You by your conduct have made yourself more of a friend than a person in a relationship of the type you desire.
Suggest a book by a man named Warren Farrell. "Why men are the way they are." Warren writes many books along this line in relationships..but this is the first one Ive read and a good one too on male/female psyche.
You dont spend alot of time trying out for certain female approval..like trying out for a baseball or soccer team...If you try out to much, women take advantage of you especially certain types as mentioned by other posters. This type need to be identified and marked.. I call them Type A women..
They are mostly useful for bringing you "Piece"...they because of their basic nature ..can never bring you "Peace" . Peace is what the Type B woman knows and Peace will outlast biology ..by a long shot. Most Type A women dont now anything about this because the men they go out with dont know anything about it either. Peace ....James the Lesser ..requires real commitment from a woman ..Piece does not . Lots of women out there ..for whom Piece is what they give so that they never have to be committed ..and so few men know anything about this. To much sports illustrated swimsuit edition blocking the male thinking apparatus.
Good luck and good hunting..learn some basic survival skills in this arena.
Dont settle for second best from a woman by trying out to much for thier approval ratings.
I know a few guys with the same problem...as you ..

Thanks Orangetom

James,

If all the girlfriends you ever had cheated on you ..they were never your girlfriends. You may have been convenient for them.
They may have slept with you but they were never your girlfriend.
Just because you have slept with a woman ..dont automatically get the idea that she is territory ..marked out from all trespassers ...especially a Type A woman.
Just some food for that thought process you need to work on ...

Orangetom.