POF scam

originally posted by: PRSpinster
a reply to: LaWnOrDeR92

In the past, I've hooked up w 4 girls from that site. Alllllllllll bat# cray. Stay away.

Pictures of it didn't happen

a reply to: LaWnOrDeR92

Tell the guy you'll pay up, ask for his bank account # so you can electronically deposit the funds.

I met someone on POF who claimed to live about 30 miles north of me. I am careful about looking for red flags on POF and anywhere else. I don't work but she kept asking about how my job was going. She couldn't identify any landmarks in her big city and she had a Florida phone number. I proceeded carefully but put a stop to it once she asked me for an ITunes gift card to pay for gas for her to see me. I reported her to POF and her account vanished,

a reply to: LaWnOrDeR92

FYI: Just in case you didnt know. There are free apps (GOOGLE PLAY STORE etc)...you can download for that will show a fake # from a fake location....and you'd never really know anything ...male or female....this country or Timbuktu...stalker, hacker...or worse.

Good luck out there. Always stay safe!
MS

originally posted by: NarcolepticBuddha
when it's not a scam, the people are batguano insane. Just avoid the online sheet.

That's been my experience as well. I wrote a long post about it here somewhere... Ahh, here it is:

I've met a few girls from online dating sites... And usually (in my experience), there's something wrong with them that causes them to be rejected by everyone else. I tried something of a little experiment one time. I decided to see what it was like being female on a dating site. I got a bunch of pictures of some random girl; just an average-looking, everyday girl. Then I set up a simple fake profile with those pictures. I didn't write much on the profile, just enough to not leave it completely blank. And I was completely inundated with messages from guys of all ages. Hundreds of messages. And they're all the same too. "Hey baby, you look good, we should get together", "Hey, you're pretty hot, wanna meet up sometime?", "Hey, if you send me pics of your boobs, I'll show you my d**k". So I was left wondering... Why the hell are women putting themselves out there on online dating sites, when this is the result? And then I get back to what I said at the beginning. There's usually something wrong with them. The last girl I met from a dating site seemed all fine and nice, but then I found out she was a drug addict. Another I met before her was perfectly normal... Until I found out she has to wear a wig because she rips her hair out, and also has a voracious appetite for sex (she now has sexually-transmitted diseases). Another girl I met online I'd only been talking to a short time when one night she texts me and tells me she's sitting outside my house. A huge portion of profiles I see on one particular site are women who have one or more children and demand that the male be ok with that and good with kids, ie "take care of my kids for me". Aside from that, half the profiles are generic, cookie-cutter things that don't even differentiate the person from anyone else. "I like music and going to the movies and sometimes I like to stay at home and relax". I do have to clarify something though. I'm not necessarily judging anyone. I really could care less if someone is a drug addict, or a sex freak... whatever. I had a best friend who was mentally ill. I had friends who did drugs. I had friends who had kids. It doesn't bother me. I have my own problems like anyone else, so I'm not looking down on anyone. The point I'm making is there's a reason many women are on online dating sites. But let's not generalize all these women, because that's ignorant. Let's say for example, maybe only 1% of them fit the above. The other 99% are perfectly rounded, normal individuals. So let's look at it from the guy's side. You're a guy and you make a profile on a dating site. Be prepared to have a soaring-high self-confidence. You could be the nicest guy in the world, but the harsh reality is, every time you message a girl on a dating site, there's a hundred other guys trying to say whatever they can to hook up with her. You're going to get rejected... ALOT. You might be having long, awesome conversations with someone over the course of several days or weeks, and then *poof*, she stops talking to you. No more conversation. Now imagine this happening over and over and over again for months or even years. It's easy for any guy to start to wonder things... "Is something wrong with me? Am I not attractive enough? Did I say the wrong thing and scare her away? Is she ignoring me because she found someone more interesting? Was she just looking for someone to have sex with?" I've personally faced this dilemma many times. I'd be talking to some girl for quite some time, and she seems all excited to meet me and expresses her desire to get together and do something... And then suddenly, she's gone. Probably because she decided one of the hundreds of other guys messaging her was better. So, to answer your question... No, it's not really worth it. Dating sites are the downfall of social interaction.

a reply to: LaWnOrDeR92

Its easy to say that we can see from the get go that it was a scam, but I bet it tripped you out at hard.
I would take down that number they called you from and report it to the police.

originally posted by: Jiggly
tell the person on the call to piss off

That's what I would have done.
As long as you kept it on the up and up with just small talk, nothing sexual after you found out she was 17.
Nothing to worry about.

Funny story.
I remember when I was 16, there was a new family that moved in across the street. They had a daughter that was 15 and really hot, one night her mother was gone and she had some friends over and she invited me and a couple buddies over there.
I kissed her a few times, nothing more but right in the middle her mother busts through the front door and sees us and screams she is calling the cops. We got out of there pronto lol.
Next day the mother is banging at our door screaming that I was violating her daughter and she is bringing the cops over and she says to my father why is a 22 year old guy looking for a 15 year old girl?...my dad says hold on lady, he is only 16.
I said hey Ms So and So....all I did was kiss her and nothing else and I am sorry for freaking you out.
I don't know why she thought I was 22 but everyone always said I looked older back then but she believed him and she actually let me see her daughter after that...we dated for a year or so lol.

a reply to: LaWnOrDeR92

I dont know what the law is there but anything more than 3 messages here is considered grooming.

If somebody tells you they're 17 which I'm assuming counts as underage where you're from, it's your own fault and you're lucky it wasn't law enforcement. Any sensible adult would've said sorry too young and blocked them.

It's okay man. If this was the real thing, you could always say "hey, your daughter was breaking the law too biatch"

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a reply to: LaWnOrDeR92

LMAO!
People in the UK can consent at 16, and drink alcohol in a bar if consumed with a meal. 18 then nightclubs and casinos are allowed.
Are US 17 year olds precious snowflakes who can't decide if they want sex or not?

Funny as #, sorry about the worry you may have but it's clearly a scam so I'd ignore it.

originally posted by: grainofsand
a reply to: LaWnOrDeR92

LMAO!
People in the UK can consent at 16, and drink alcohol in a bar if consumed with a meal. 18 then nightclubs and casinos are allowed.
Are US 17 year olds precious snowflakes who can't decide if they want sex or not?

Funny as #, sorry about the worry you may have but it's clearly a scam so I'd ignore it.

I don't think that's the primary consideration.
Statutory rape laws. In my state, age of consent is 18 and there is a 'close in age' exemption however if one is convicted of statutory rape it is a felony (of which I think there are 6 degrees) and the punishment depends on the ages etc of the folks involved. One could wind up on a sex offender registry for having (unknowingly) sex with someone 17 years old and they are 22 years old (hypothetically) and charges are filed (for whatever reason). One has to be cautious/careful/mindful here.
It's not so much that they 'can't decide if they want sex or not', it is the ages of the parties that is considered.
*Just wanted to give a little 'clarity' on some of the laws here so that you would (maybe) better understand the age/law situation.

Also...some states, the age of consent is 16, some 17 and so on...

a reply to: TNMockingbird

Ah thanks, that does make it clearer.
Oh, and curious anomaly in the UK, while sex is legal at 16, naked images, pictures/video, are illegal until 18.

I don't want to be a Richard, but I don't think the OP says the whole story. I mean if you actually worried sick for a month, then that text convo between you and the alleged under aged girl was not exactly innocent, otherwise you wouldn't give a #

Now if there was any sexual reference from you AFTER you learned the fact that she is underage, you might be hooked for this scam. Although if it was a scam indeed, it is very unlikely that the alleged father would report you if you don't pay and give up this scam for good.

originally posted by: grainofsand
a reply to: TNMockingbird

Ah thanks, that does make it clearer.
Oh, and curious anomaly in the UK, while sex is legal at 16, naked images, pictures/video, are illegal until 18.

Your welcome, of course.
Interesting indeed.
So, as far as being able to consent to sex at 16 in the UK...there's no consideration (legally) then the age of the other party?

a reply to: LaWnOrDeR92

Even if that was a legit girl who was 17, you can't violate any laws just talking to her through text messages. Good call on spotting that something was up.

a reply to: szino9

I have REALLY bad anxiety and paranoia. I take medication for it. That's why it's bothering me.

a reply to: TNMockingbird

Yes, I was having sex with my mates hot mother when I was 16, perfectly legal.
Gay sex used to be 18 but the laws were equalised a few years ago.

The messages and texts should be enough to charge him/her with extortion. Turn the tables and watch them run.

a reply to: seasonal

Lol. Trust me when I say I've deleted all of the pics but in one instance, I left her state, and ran under an alias until the protective order went into effect, that is. Haha. It would be hilarious if it wasn't true. She works for DOJ so I felt the need to go dark for safety.

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