Why do people play games?

I do not think any gender plays more games than the other, I just think that many people in this day and age do play games and I will explain why I am not one of them.

Every time the earth and Mother Nature seems to place a mate in front of me I always end up ruining the whole relationship because of a complete inner struggle that I am usually unable to even mention because if my partner sees that I am emotionally imbalanced that is a bad thing. This struggle always enters my body after a person has acted perpendicular to showing love. I believe this happens because I truly love and care and they do not, because of how they were raised or the depth of their personality. For example, you say hello to someone you know and they ignore you, they don't mind talking to you, but they ignore you just to play a little game, maybe some games are played to test your emotions and some are played to observe your reaction.

After growing up, I finally found that the reason why these little things hurt is because of my adoption and subconscious longing for my birth mother. And I get furious in these many years without a partner, and every time I scream, why cannot I find one person in the world who wants to show me care the same as how I want to show them care?

I wouldn't normally suggest any of these pua guys but there is a man called David deangelo that does talk sense in terms of the inner struggle people like yourself have.
Just YouTube his name and you will find many videos.

a reply to: UFOdanger

emotional adolescence.

some people just don't know how to love.

a reply to: UFOdanger

There are emotionally mature adults out there who would give you exactly what you are craving. These people read books on the subject and join groups and learn how to love without filter, without limits.

Just be prepared to acknowledge some of your own limits when you discover them after meeting one of these people.

a reply to: UFOdanger

The nearest I can get to an answer from my own experience:

Because the world is a cruel, dark place, peopled by cruel, dark hearted people, and you have to be astronomically lucky to ever come across a human being who will not gut you the moment you turn your back. When you do though, you have to know it, and take that situation on face value but quick, because otherwise its a bad time for everyone.

I think we are attracted to people who have qualities that are familiar to us. The qualities are not always positive ones. For example if your mom verbally abused you, you may be attracted to verbally abusive women even though they don't make you happy. My advice is- try striking up a relationship with a woman who is completely different from the women you ordinarily date.

Sal

a reply to: UFOdanger

Interesting replies. I need to understand face value. Because if someone plays a small game, I need to see it as that, they still love me, but they are acting contrary to what I am thinking. For me to be happy with that it is like I am thinking two faced, which is not my goal to show love. I have come to realize that love is the healing answer, my journey turned into a long dependence with opiates because they heal the same emotional responses as love does, but love is natural, and we see it can cause dependence though also like medicine can.

The more I think about my question, the more I think that it is possible to attain what I need, and that I am being led there without even realizing it.

a reply to: UFOdanger

The reason they play these games? I think it's similar to the idea "the hunt is more enjoyable than the meal"

What I mean is when you first start seeing a girl it's exciting it's a rush. Getting to know each other everything feels new. = The hunt

Once you get to know her or him. You plan you build your ideas together you get comfortable. You make chocolate squishy in the toilet with the door open. The meat of the relationship = the meal

Some people just enjoy the excitement and rush often getting it from more than one guy. They don't want to settle down to eat they wanna run around and hunt

Another reason a person could be doing that is they are not Interested but you are convenient your ways available to text when they are bored or lonely. = Convenient side snuggle

I think the issue here is your looking for what you are and whst you give in others and that's not a bad thing it's great but at the same time it's too direct.

I believe sometimes in life you have to open your needs up a bit carry a more open mind e.g. a great girl who is sweet but she smokes
If you view smoking as a bad thing don't let her go just roll with the punches.

I think just try for one month if someone asks you to a social event or out of your house Just try it for one month you say YES Everytime no matter what say yes it will open your world I promise

In the words of Steve Harvey

Good luck playa

I think that the most useful advice I can give you is not to take things so personally.
People do what people do from millions of reasons that most of the time have nothing to do with you personally. Trying to understand them can drive you mad. If you don't like what they do just shrug them off and go on with your life.

Finding someone who fits your way of thinking is not easy for any of us, and it can take time. Don't concentrate solely on that, life is rich and vast and there is so much to do and discover out there. The right person or the right relationship will come to you one day but until then enjoy your life and don't put so much importance on the petty things people do.

Hey you all, I had my heart ripped out of my chest today. I felt like I could walk across the whole state, just walk forever in a trance, leading to nowhere. I have been heart broken for about a month, but this morning I was attacked by love, she did something that is very bad and that any normal person would question, and she did it to hurt me. It changed from a small cry to an emergency, the anxiety levels went to a point that bursts out of any normal pain threshold. There is not much to say but to forget about what I witnessed.

I ask myself, do I love God less than any human being? When I am rejected from my greatest deepest desire, and even led down a path to believe in the greatest good as a dream, I have to tell myself, this is all my fault, God is completely innocent, and I did not do the right things to attain love, but that I love God more than any person. In this way I can transfer my love to God, instead of thinking that God does not care. Whatever I do, I need to forget, and the spirit gave me a new love yesterday, and once I again I have to leave my greatest love and pursue a completely different route.

a reply to: TheNewKid

Basically I have learned that a man must be extremely aggressive with women, and I never knew that, nobody told me and I had to learn the hard way. I thought you were supposed to go slow and let nature take it's course, but every time I do that they get mad and start playing because that initial high was let down and they don't want to be let down. The only way to do this now is when I meet the girl I have to say, "do you have a boyfriend?" and then say "I want you to be mine" right away so we will know exactly where we stand immediately, instead of this getting to know the person first like you would think, but it never works that way.

originally posted by: WhiteHat
I think that the most useful advice I can give you is not to take things so personally.
People do what people do from millions of reasons that most of the time have nothing to do with you personally. Trying to understand them can drive you mad. If you don't like what they do just shrug them off and go on with your life.

Finding someone who fits your way of thinking is not easy for any of us, and it can take time. Don't concentrate solely on that, life is rich and vast and there is so much to do and discover out there. The right person or the right relationship will come to you one day but until then enjoy your life and don't put so much importance on the petty things people do.

Do you know the extent of your truth in my situation? I am not kidding, the very thing she did to me that absolutely crushed my vitality today is a central foundation block as to why I love her. If she was mine I would be a happy man. So we understand truth but I do not know how to feel at least average, the only way I know is to forget, and if I can forget a tragic event in a couple hours, I am good to go.