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originally posted by: RainbowPhoenix
a reply to: Freija
I'm pretty chill about it really. I know I'm different and that difference has a name and it's Transgender and I refuse to be made to feel ashamed of or down about who I am, I've had enough of that in my early life.
I didn't touch not a one of my prescribed pain pills after my surgery and the doc was like "really? You must be tough" the pain wasn't bad enough for me to feel like I needed them.
I'm very much a tomboy when it comes to interests, hobbies, entertainment and such but I'm very glam fab girly in manner of dress.
originally posted by: peppycat
i look at women as i would a male...both are human beings with thoughts and emotions...i used to be a jealuos possesive friend of another woman and i looked at her like she was incomparable friendship...or like a mom or bro...
now i just try to look at all folks with a pleasant thought of not being super possesive...hope i make sense to your question about looking at other women from my perspective as myself.
i usually wait until i am noticed or some other friends point out a person to me...growing up with brothers made me feel like they might feel looking or approaching a woman..shy or not sure what say or how to look at one...by my twenties i got over that stuff and would strive for appropriate complements on the way they look or what cute/sweet factor is in their character..it's not so easy to win a gal over if there is some sorta mean boyfriend near her...so i strive to just make friends with folks as you never know for sure who is spoken for who sometimes!
or they don't have some sort of ring or other notice of being already commited in union with eachother !
this is a great thread and i love the opportunity to share with ya my thoughts on looking at a woman!
happy Tuesday and hope to read more writing from ya!
originally posted by: Freija
However, I'm not delusional about things. I know I am not the same as someone that was born female even though that's what the vast percentage of my life has been like or how has it has been lived. I know this body I inhabit is not the same either but with a little work has been made as close to normal as it could possibly be. Give an old lady a break okay if I don't feel it's necessary to add the modifier "trans" to my description of myself as a woman. It's not so much being trans as the language and labeling that bugs me.
You may be more willing and able to accept yourself as and identify as transgender because there was more "transing" in your life than mine and it's more recent for you?
What surgery was that, if it's not too personal to ask? You made me curious.
I don't think anyone would describe my style as remotely "glam fab girly" and I don't even remember the last time I wore a dress except some old thing around the house.
originally posted by: RainbowPhoenix
a reply to: Freija
I don't really refer to myself as Trans other than when I'm trying to explain it to people that knew me pre-transition and unfortunately Caitlyn Jenner is an easy point of reference that people understand immediately.
You kind of have to talk about it though when your entire social circle knew you pre transition it's pretty much unavoidable under those circumstances.
I'm so lazy sometimes but I work from home so it's easy to fall into a disheveled state lol.
originally posted by: bigfatfurrytexan
I don't tend to size people up. I actually don't tend to see people as existing until they do something that calls them to my attention. I know that sounds weird....but the world is just a blur of background information to me until something steps out of the background to command my attention.
So I often leave a party and cannot tell you who was there. I meet people and shake their hand, introducing myself, only to be told we've met before.
If someone is physically attractive, ill notice them regardless (what I think is attractive is a bit off the beaten path for most folks, so I don't notice "hot chicks" as they aren't very attractive to me).
In social settings it would be someone that actually understood me during small talk, and didn't look at me like i just had a worm crawl out of my nose.
originally posted by: bigfatfurrytexan
a reply to: Freija
Im sure this'll go all over you....and you should know by now that isn't my intention....
but "body dysmorphic disorder" likely explains why you focus on it. That whole inadequacy thing. That isn't to say that there is a label that ties any of it down....its rather nebulous when you try to apply diagnostics to it, I think. And manifests in multple ways, with blurring of cause and effect.
I think most folks struggle with it at least a little bit.