Only good looking people find real love

originally posted by: AbyshaI didn't mean to skirt the question. To answer, let's say you had Johnny Depp and Donald Trump with the exact same personality and brain. Of course I would pick the one in Johnny Depp's body. That's a silly question.

Exactly!

Now let's say that there were two Johnny Depp clones, one boring and the other smart and funny. I would pick the smart and funny one.

And so would I! I'm glad we can agree on something...

Don't you understand? Physical attractiveness is just one of many things that attract a person. That's why it's called "physical attractiveness" and not just "attractiveness".

Yes, I do understand this perfectly well. Surely this was made obvious by the first paragraph of my OP?

a reply to: rukia

People who are insecure often need to seek out someone who is going to tell them that they're the best thing since powdered toast

And those are the people who it is almost impossible to sustain a relationship with. It may last anywhere from weeks to years, but eventually, you just get tired of playing "Mirror mirror on the wall" and propping up that persons self esteem. Having to tell someone "I love you" 10 times a day, every day gets tiresome and as soon as you "slack off" [ which it isn't by the way ] they will find someone else to fulfill that need.
Yes, speaking from experience.

Hot girls are much more messed up inside than a plain jane type. I'm not sure if OP is a guy or a girl...but I've had better conversations with the jane than the dolled up broad that's afraid to move so as not to ruin her hair.

In the end, it's about respect, not love.

Young people are shallow.

As we age, we all start figuring out what is really important in what we look for. So, rest easy, and realize that others may just still be going through a shallow phase.

Plus, there are really attractive folks who lack confidence, but still aren't getting a relationship. They just need the right taste of success, is all, then they'll be fine.

a reply to: Gazrok

I totally agree with you. Youngsters only want to get fun, go to parties and the most important thing is to have a good looking boyfriend or girlfriend , otherwise they will be considered as nerds or weirdos. The beauty and youth are temporary things, but our personality and charisma is forever. I 'd rather choose the guy who is funny and has charisma, who has something more than good look. Who has mind, who is a wise man with modern point of view without any prejudice.

originally posted by: Astyanax
a reply to: plainsailing

In the end people settle for what they can get, which is usually someone about as good-looking as themselves, and similar in other ways too.

If they're smart, they'll settle for this and be satisfied. If they think they deserve better, they will remain unfulfilled and unhappy.

Anyone who doesn't understand this needs to read Jane Austen.

I think the issue today is porn and other forms of entertainment. Attractive women are frequently paired with average looking guys in movies and commercials and it's infected several generations of guys with the idea that everyone deserves a super model. Add to that porn and they all think they should be getting some way more than their genetics allow.

a reply to: plainsailing

I think regardless of how someone looks, good looking or not, everyone has insecurities and hang ups. I dont know anyone who is completely happy with how they look.

And normally if someone has no hang ups or thinks they are perfect looking and love everything about themselves, they are normally wankers.

Besides all this.. personality is really what matters. Because looks fade, and eventually you are just stuck with the person.

People tell me trolls & goblins don't exist but I see them every time I walk around the mall.

& they all seem pretty content together...