posted on May, 4 2015 @ 06:15 PM
When my oldest was born, I made the most money in the relationship. We were renovating a house so her father stayed home for a few years. He worked
part time outside of the home and we were blessed to have my parents to fall back on during those times. He is a good parent and I see the benefit of
him having stayed home with her often.
When my next daughter came along, we both worked full time and my parents weren't available to help out so we hired someone until she was school
aged. My children are 17, 16, 15, 14, and 12 I am still a parent when I come home from work...
I suppose I could have stayed home and "raised" my children myself but, I enjoyed working also. So far, my children seem well rounded and okay for
me not having chosen to be a housewife but, I suppose we won't really know until they are older. We like to have money in the bank and savings we
like nice things. We like to travel. If only one of us was working I think that would be difficult to say the least.
I suppose I don't understand about the children not making friends and going to visit. My kids go to people's houses and social events and their
friends come here and go on vacations with us sometimes.
WE are busy as a family, I do admit that. We run a tight ship and are on a strict schedule. There's after school activities, homework, dinner,
laundry....we relax on the weekends and do fun things together. We go to new places and explore. My children are in school all day and I don't think
it's necessary for me to be at home. That is just MY OPINION.
I am lucky in the sense that my job and my S.O.'s allow us the freedom to be "off" when needed and I am able to work from home if necessary but,
without those years of climbing, I wouldn't have those luxuries now.
I would never fault someone who chooses to stay home and raise their children. I think it's a personal decision. I don't think it makes you a bad
person or parent necessarily either way.
It is necessary, however, to make the most of the time you do spend with them to try to instill some values, help them with their moral compass, help
in the reading, writing, and arithmetic, we have hours of homework MOST nights X 5 children. I believe you should assist them with growing up to
become productive members of society, whatever that means to you whether it means holding down a 9-5 and being the breadwinner or being the one who
takes on more of the responsibility of the child rearing....personal choice...
My Mother stayed home and my Dad worked all the time. I couldn't wait to leave home and get a job.
I KNEW that wasn't me...it just wasn't. Again, personal choice. I see positives and negatives on both sides.