The Shed 3

a reply to: swanne

It will.

Or there will be trouble.

True, I too am proud of you and your parenting skills! I'm smiling. Our boy is young and has much to learn yet and with you by his side, he will turn out to be a fine young man. Keep us posted on his progress. I didn't know he was about to be a big brother. Quite an age gap, but there is quite an age gap between my oldest brother, my Sister and I. There is 11 years between my Sister and I and ten years between my oldest brother and I. I have another brother who is a year and a half older than me too.

Syx, bravo on your latest story entry! The bragons have arrived!!!!!!!! How wonderful! Should make for some interesting adventures! Well done!

a reply to: ccbears

I have been thinking of Names for the young ones CC! I'll come up with a couple good ones soon enough! LOL! I want them to be good ones to be remembered!
Oh, Any suggestions?...
And Yes, It was starting to hurt my back flying you around with the little extra weight of the little ones! Should be easier now eh?! LOL!!
Love Ya too CC...

a reply to: swanne

Swanne the births were in The Story only! Not sure about CC, but I am too old for trying to raise newborns! I would if necessary for whatever reason, for friends etc., but I have enough fun with our Grand Kids! But Thanx though Bro! I appreciate it!!

a reply to: Night Star

Thanx Night! I am sure the twins will be fun to have in Our Story here! I am sure there will be times when They will have their share of Fun one way or another!!...

I am sorry i didnt tell Night Star and pheonix358 I also enjoyed your add on to the story sorry...I guess my mind is other places sorry...

a reply to: SyxPak

I am right with you on that one Syx..As you are getting pretty old....LOL..Just grand babies from here on out...

originally posted by: ccbears
I am sorry i didnt tell Night Star and pheonix358 I also enjoyed your add on to the story sorry...I guess my mind is other places sorry...

Thanks Honey! Sometimes things just flow smoothly for me and other times I am at a loss on where to go with the story. It can be quite a challenge, but I'm up for it.

Blup blup, blup blup. Oh, don't mind me, I was just watching the fish. LOL

Help if you can please!

www.abovetopsecret.com...

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a reply to: TrueBrit

I wasn't talking about your boy, I was talking about the stressful c-section thing.

a reply to: SyxPak

Oh.

Sorry, sleep deprivation seems to have brought me confusion.

Now that I read it back it indeed makes a wit bit more sense.

So, how are you doing mate?

a reply to: swanne

Ah, I see.

Well yes, it would be best for all concerned if my sons mother pulls through that procedure without undue stress affecting her, beyond that associated with a medical procedure.

a reply to: TrueBrit

In relation to the situation about which I have posted previously, it seems that his behaviour has not improved one whit, and has in fact collapsed completely over the last week. He has been abusive toward one of his little brothers, has been obstinate and rude whenever he is pulled away from his screen based entertainments, and has given no respect to his mother what so ever.

I am furious, disappointed, and concerned by all this. There are things I want to do for him that I simply cannot do, while his behaviour remains in this parlous state, things he needs to experience soon, before time and age makes him less able to absorb them in their fullest. If he continues to prevent me from engaging with him in the manner which would be most beneficial for him, I fear it will strain our relationship, not to mention all the damage it will do to his siblings, his mother, and her husband.

I have just this moment received word that he has been banned at home from all forms of televisual entertainment, and so I will be instituting the same here. In fact, I am going to ban him from having any fun what so ever the entire time he is here, until he gets a damned grip on his behaviour. I am so furious right now.

Hi Swanne! Good to see you again!!!!

True, has the bullying at school stopped? What do you think might be the cause of his sudden change in temperament?

a reply to: pheonix358

Replied in your thread Honey.

Morning All...hope you have a GREAT day....I dont think We will be doing any thing today as we have been doing stuff saturday and sunday...so we are staying home...would like to walk the beaches but maybe some other day....

a reply to: swanne

No Sorries needed Bro, but thanx... I know of confusion very well as of late, so can see how that would happen...

Hello Syx and CC! Hello fellow Sheddites and lurkers!

a reply to: Night Star

I think that the causes here are a combination of things. First, he subconsciously realises the importance of upcoming events, and intensely dislikes change. He is a big fan of routines.

Second, he is too much a fan of his own space, values it intensely. His brothers coming in to his room has meant that things of his have become wrecked before apparently. He does not yet understand the total unimportance of the material things in life, despite his relative intelligence. These things can take time I suppose. In any case, it seems that territorial invasion is something which he reacts badly to. I suppose it could be a decompression problem. Spending his weeks surrounded by other kids in class rooms is not Ashley's idea of a safe learning environment after all, but he has no choice about that, and may feel that the time he spends at home, is time he wants to spend alone with his data, with YouTube, with the internet or games.

Either way, I have had a very serious word with him. I told him that I was very angry and disappointed with him, that after my talking to him last week, he would continue to be a bugger to his mother, let alone get WORSE!

I made him come down to the park and use the exercise machines there, because his mother had been trying to get him to walk around the block, and he had refused. We worked out for an hour, and then walked home to my place, ate dinner with my mother and a couple of family friends, and then I sat him down on the couch with pencil and pad, and we drew, just drew the entire time. He kept saying "Can I use the iPad to learn how to..."

Every time he did, I told him no. After the fifth time, I told him that this was just going to be another month before he got his guitar, and another month on top of that if he complained. He will get the idea eventually. I intend to keep this up next week if things have not improved. It will be a Zero Fun household when he is around, until he behaves for his mother.

a reply to: TrueBrit

With all respect ... his mom is wrong.

Respect goes two ways. He has to respect his brothers while they do not respect him. Just reading between the lines here, he seems to be getting the bad end of the big brother stick. He is older therefore he has to make allowances ...

You could try a lock on his bedroom door so his things are protected. I wonder if his brothers get into trouble for breaking his things or if mom always takes the easy way out. It is not always the material loss that hurts, more the disrespect shown to him and the loss of his emotional contact with the destroyed items.

Many moms never seem to be able to understand the stages boys go through to become men which is when problems start.

Hope you don't mind blunt.

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