posted on Mar, 27 2012 @ 04:59 PM
I have to say that i have the same thing here at my house. Recently started dating a woman that has 2 kids. 9 year old boy and 6 year old girl. I
havent had those words uttered yet but I am dreading them. I treat him as a friend and a Father figure. HE knowns that when i say something it is the
same as his mother saying it. and what she says i back up 100%. and they know that. His father is the same as you described. Constantly cheated on
her, never has a job more than a few months, using drugs. Kids are a novelty to him and a way of getting revenge on her. we never talk bad about him
but he has about us. me in particular. I have known him for a while and we dont see eye to eye. but in my favor he is scared to death of me so he
doesnt do anything foolish. Used to stalk my GF until we got together. All of that has stopped now. As far as the kids go, I try to show them more to
life and how to live. We garden and i do woodwork which the boy absolutely loves. So far I dont have any problems. I dont whip him, thats his mothers
job, (and for those who are ready to flame that, dont bother. i dont care how you feel about it) my job is to enforce the punishments. Whipping does
not work on him but grounding and taking away toys and freedom does wonders. All i can say is we (myself and you OP) can just take it a day at a time
and if that day comes hope we are ready for it!