Why do women start looking masculine as they age?

At menopause, estrogen (the femininity hormone) levels decrease. I'm 47, just started menopause about a year ago and I HATE IT! I don't mind the hotflashes, although they are annoying. I hate that my looks are fading - I'm fighting it with expensive beauty products and most people guess I'm younger than I actually am. But it's still horrifying and I'm plucking chin hairs every day.

Originally posted by Rockerchic4God
At menopause, estrogen (the femininity hormone) levels decrease. I'm 47, just started menopause about a year ago and I HATE IT! I don't mind the hotflashes, although they are annoying. I hate that my looks are fading - I'm fighting it with expensive beauty products and most people guess I'm younger than I actually am. But it's still horrifying and I'm plucking chin hairs every day.

I always knew it, Santa is really a woman!

Yeah that's pretty shallow if you ask me. Your scared to get married because of the aging process? I suggest you start looking deeper or else you'll never be in a satisfied relationship. On the contrary, Ive seen quite a few good looking older woman. I understand the importance of taking care of ones self, but woman shouldn't have to go to the plastic surgeon every year just so you can be happy.

The best I can tell is that a woman, including the one I am still in love with, realizes that a lot of what they used to consider beautiful was for the benefit of others... they just quit dealing with the BS.

Long hair takes too much time and efort to manage...cut it short. Start to lose the girlish figure and get a little chunky... who cares... look at what they "have to impress"... a bunch of out of shape middle age boys that need viagra to enjoy a night of debauchery... wow.

Seriuosly, I am a 47 yo man and I love my wife...at 50, she still drives me crazy... gray roots, chunky but curvacious figure, crows feet...lol...

By now, we have figured out what is important and cut the BS... she lets me be me and I let her be her....that's what love is all about. As far as sex, I give her what she likes and she gives me what i like...and ...it really does get better with age... at least for us.

Looks are only skin deep, it really is what is on the inside.

Before you get married...ask yourself, if I married the most beautiful girl in the world...and 1 year later, she was in a horrible accident that left her disfigured...or cripple... or mamed...would I still "love" her? If you can't say yes...then you don't really love her...that's the part where the preacher says..."for better, or for worse..."

How would you feel if you were in the accident...disfigured...and she left you?

We are all gonna get old...if we are lucky... find someone that makes you happy, not just horny.

This is darned near the most entertaining thread on ATS right now! LMAO!!


I needed the laugh!

I have aged well.. though genetics and hormone stability and nothing I have done. Hubby is pretty pleased.. my body has even held up well and I am the same size as the day we married and after 4 pregnancies. No stretchmarks and I can rock a bikini in my 40's with nothing pointing south. TOOT TOOT! I admit I AM vain enough to dye my hair the natural color though! LOL! Can escape the greying it seems! HOWEVER.. My brain and personality has been effected by age ( some would say greatly. Ask my kids. LOL!) and even though the younger men look and flirt... they'd run away screaming if we spoke about anything of significance and I have been this way pretty much since I was inmy 20's. Im a grumpy old woman who is verging on being a mysanthrope.. and all I have to say is that there reallyis a God in heaven because he sent me my perfect match. A good looking well aged grumpy old man who is more mysanthropic than I am. Family teases me that I wll be the old lady sitting on her porch with a basket of bricks to throw at the annoying kids in the neighborhood. I say, who says Im not there already. Anyway, WHen hubby and I went to the gas station this weekend and saw some stupid kid with his butt hanging out of his pants and some stupid thumping garbage assaulting my ears.. I didnt even have to say it.. the husband was already taking the words right out of my mouth. WHen we went out to eat and the loud drunk 20 somehtings were laughing like hyenas in heat.. again.. all it took was a look between us to affirm we again were on the same page. WHen our oldest ( who I waited until I was almost 25 to have on purpose even..) asked for a piercing in her eyebrow of all places.. we both started screaming the same profanities. When we watch the news we rant at the TV together.. its a bondng moment I think.
Now Im here to tell you.. THAT is love and compatibility between 2 people. If he fell apart next year, gained 50 lbs, lost his hair and started slouching around orchestral renditions of kiss and bad company.. Id love him as much as I do today because there is just something there and definitely something to say for true compatibility.. its so much more important than looks!

SO shallow OP... take it from an old lady who teen aged boys follow around.. there is a hell of a lot more to life than looks and somone with a mind just may not be interested in YOU in the end. You better invest in something past the external stuff. I dont mean get with someone you have no physical attraction to.. that is moronic.. but keep in mind that beauty fades but stupid lasts forever.

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Funny and true story... when I turned 40 my ex-girlfriend traded me in for just ONE 20 year old.

Boy did she get gyped!

~Heff

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Couldn't have said it better myself!!!

Originally posted by Better Mouse Trap
My grandmother looks like Ben Franklin now , she was fine as hell back in the day

Women take androgyny to a whole another level my friends, you don't see men looking more feminine as they age.

So what's going on? I feel I may not get married over this scary fact.

I would hate to turn 50 and my wife starts looking like some founder of America or the Grinch that stole Christmas

When they hit menopause they go from babe to functional, start carrying large purses, stop with makeup, start with eating all they want and best of all we guys can begin getting a good night's sleep for a change.

I agree somewhat with aging but ,it may be hereditary. If you look at women and their relatives-you see it start early. I am not attracted to masculine-manly looking females. If I want that I'll date my best friend. I see women in their 30's that look 10 years older than me. Women age faster? Who knows.

An honest question ,but only a prat would ask it.
Women lose estrogen after menopause.
So hair gets more dry ,skin loses elasticity and collagen .
It's basically life .
Bleeding once a month with pain and discomfort ,to give men kids ,isn't enough for you i guess.

Well,gods little present to men for cheating on their wives when their wives no longer make their day ,is their prostate swells to the size of a grapefruit and peeing is quite unpleasant .Then Mr happy doesn't rise and shine like he used to ,and some men,get moobs.

"When they hit menopause they go from babe to functional, start carrying large purses..."

LMFAO

Is that like a euphemism?.

Well i'm 51 and still as sexy as hell no wrinkles yet but i don't care even if i do get them someday soon, the only down side is when i wake up i feel i'm 18 until i try and get out of bed and my body tells me to wise up put my glasses on and look in the mirror

Its nice wishing lol

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I am 58 and my 77 year old husband wants to trade me in for 3-25 year olds.
The older that I get,my trade-in value decreases.

Im a 49 year old female no children, never married. Some guys think Im in my 20s.I work as a dancer in a gentlemans club and have for many years. I ve been told that I have the perkiest breasts in the club. I eat healthy, dont drink and take about 20 vitamins and supplements a day. Only all natural beauty products. I have been cooking with flaxseed oil for years which acts like estrogen in the body. My breasts keep getting larger and everything is perky. I see many older couples out in public and many older men are very attractive while the women, well its hard to tell if theyre women sometimes. they seem to accentuate it with masculine clothes, hairstyles, and behavior. If I was married/in a relationship, no matter how much I loved the guy, if he started to grow breasts and wear heels I would be OUT. That is the equivalent of what many of these older women do, though. Its almost like they try to look like a man. Coincidentially (?) none of these couples ever look like theyre having any fun. People have control over their health and appearance. Chemicals in conventional beauty products that are masss marketed are hormone disruptors. You can look many years younger by cutting out processed crap and eating a clean diet.

a reply to: Better Totally agree! I see many attractive older men walking around with what resembles posts dressed like men with grim expressions on their faces who are their wives. I wonder why they stay with them. Its like a hot guy starting to wear womens lacy underwear. If I was married and my husband did that I would be GONE! Trap

It's natural for people's appearance to change as they age due to hormonal shifts and other biological factors. Instead of focusing solely on physical attributes, consider valuing the bond and connection you share with your partner. True love goes beyond external appearances.