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Originally posted by mblahnikluver
WOW! You do realize it takes TWO to make a baby right? Men are just as responsible for an unplanned pregnancy as a women. You both caused the pregnancy.
Originally posted by mblahnikluver
If you are soooooo worried about a 20 year burden as you seem to look at it then wrap your pecker! I know it's not "cool" to suggest a condom but you know what it's better than an unwanted child or disease. Why not be the smart one, someone should make that decision and if neither do and a child results you are BOTH at fault and should be responsible for the care of the child.
Originally posted by SevenBeans
Originally posted by mblahnikluver
WOW! You do realize it takes TWO to make a baby right? Men are just as responsible for an unplanned pregnancy as a women. You both caused the pregnancy.
Equally responsible for a pregnancy. The choice to create a baby requiring 20 years of support is the unilateral choice of a Woman. Not sure why you people are having such difficulty distinguishing between two obviously seperate choices.
Originally posted by mblahnikluver
If you are soooooo worried about a 20 year burden as you seem to look at it then wrap your pecker! I know it's not "cool" to suggest a condom but you know what it's better than an unwanted child or disease. Why not be the smart one, someone should make that decision and if neither do and a child results you are BOTH at fault and should be responsible for the care of the child.
P.S. I've never had an unwanted child or STD. I didn't have sex until I was married. In todays world casual sex is like playing russian roulette. Sex is not worth losing your freedom over, or having your unborn thrown in the trash, or getting an STD (which something like 40% of all 16 year old girls now have). I seriously doubt that you or very many other people can say that they had a more responsible approach to sex than I did, so you can spare me the condom lecture.edit on 12-11-2010 by SevenBeans because: (no reason given)
I agree people do casual sex way too often and make irresponsible choices that result in many different things. If you are smart with your choices involving sex you have nothing to worry about. I think sex education is needed. I mean they want to shove sex down our throats daily but they don't want to talk about the consequences.
I don't sleep around or play roulette like you say. I am smart, use protection and I don't jump in bed with every guy who crosses my path. I did make smart choices, maybe not so smart with bfs but sex yes I am careful with.
Well that is your choice to wait until marriage and that is a good thing, not many do that anymore. extra DIV
Originally posted by mblahnikluver
Ok I get what you are saying I think, the woman ultimately decides whether to keep it or not? That is true I will agree but it's both parties fault for the woman having to make that choice...and you being a man you will have no idea how that choice affects a woman.
Originally posted by Hefficide
*sigh*
As much as I dread entering back into this thinly veiled anti abortion, bitter male-o-thon, I will hesitantly reenter...
Originally posted by Hefficide
When anyone can bring me an article about a father who died in childbirth then we'll talk about "everything has to be exactly equal." Until such a time, this is all superfluous, ridiculous, and trite. Until this this whole debate is based upon false pretense, agenda, and irrational thought.
Originally posted by Hefficide
Yet, once again, I will explain the difference between an abortion and a father walking away from a live birth. One makes a baby that requires financial support, the other doesn't.
Originally posted by Hefficide
After what feels like months of this debate going back and forth, with no headway in either direction, I personally have just come to the conclusion that there are men in this world who are simply pathetic and sorry enough to try and find any reason to walk away from responsibility - to create rationals for doing so from whole cloth and then to try and mask it all in constitutional fairness - and there's not much most of us can do about it. Other than to voice our disgust.
Originally posted by Hefficide
Well other than have courts to mandate harsh terms upon those men - which makes the ones who want to be good fathers suffer as well... Oh, wait. That's what we have now. Thanks for ruining it for those of us who actually try to be good parents fellas.
Originally posted by Hefficide
But to argue against feeding ones own child?
Originally posted by mblahnikluver
Originally posted by SevenBeans
Sex and pregnancy does not cause the birth of a child requiring 20 years of support, only the unilateral choice of a Woman can cause that.
Originally posted by mblahnikluver
WOW! You do realize it takes TWO to make a baby right?
Originally posted by mblahnikluver
Men are just as responsible for an unplanned pregnancy as a women. You both caused the pregnancy.
Originally posted by mblahnikluver
WOW! You do realize it takes TWO to make a baby right? Men are just as responsible for an unplanned pregnancy as a women. You both caused the pregnancy. If you are soooooo worried about a 20 year burden as you seem to look at it then wrap your pecker! I know it's not "cool" to suggest a condom but you know what it's better than an unwanted child or disease. Why not be the smart one, someone should make that decision and if neither do and a child results you are BOTH at fault and should be responsible for the care of the child.
Originally posted by Hefficide
Funny. I thought the hundreds of posts in this thread citing abortion as a factor made abortion an issue here. My original statements did not mention abortion. In fact it was brought up by people on the other side of the argument from me. Read this thread and count the occurrences of the world "abortion", often in all caps, and then figure out the score on this one regarding which side of the debate seems fixated upon abortion.
When a supposition does not make sense without the underlying issue, then one can only assume that the subtext IS the actual agenda.
And as for asking for women to be held as responsible equally - fine. Show me a single documented case of a woman receiving child support for an aborted fetus or a child she gave up for adoption and then we'll talk. And as for pregnancy and labor being referred to as a "TEMPORARY' uncomfortable experience", very easy to downgrade and marginalize when one knows they won't ever actually have to walk in those shoes.
If science ever develops a way for your sexual partners have the option and ability implant the fetus into YOUR body, then it's "equal". And as many others have done, you speak of this issue solely in a singular gender manner, placing ALL of the blame, responsibility, and pressure upon the female.
You do realize that child support came into being because men were NOT doing the right thing by their families. Right? If there had not been a need for these laws, they would not exist. Oh, wait, nevermind, it was those feminists and their Gynocratic fascism...
Over and over I read these same empty arguments and not ONCE have a I seen anyone on the other side of the issue say a single thing about the welfare of the child. Not once that I can recall. Just a bunch of "My rights" "my money" rhetorical regurgitation.
Explain to me how the ability to say "Oh, before you get dressed, just so you know, if you're knocked up I don't have to provide for the kid at all, so either get an abortion or raise it yourself. MY money is MINE." has anything to do with "Helping women escape oppression and achieve happiness"? This truly equals fairness and equity to you? Really?
Oh, I remember... The idea is that if she didn't want to risk pregnancy she should have kept her legs closed. Right? Never mind that there happened to be a guy present, and active, with the same option for avoiding a pregnancy. In this bizarro world we are seeking to create only women bear those consequences, because we're keeping things equal....
Of course the fact that abortion results in no child to support keeps getting ignored. Ignored because there is no way to counter it. So we just harp on and on and on with this false notion of equality that cannot exist because it is impossible to achieve. I again use word pedantic because that is the only word in my vocabulary that can describe what is happening in this thread.
Originally posted by joechip
If you have the sole choice, you (should) have the sole responsibility. Find a single example anywhere else where this does not hold true.
That's a challenge.
Originally posted by Expat888
Rubbish.. Part of being a man is responsibility for ones actions at all times.. Not doing a runner just because your bit of fun produced a child.. If you cant or wont accept the responsibility then practice celibacy...
Originally posted by Expat888
Rubbish.. Part of being a man is responsibility for ones actions at all times.. Not doing a runner just because your bit of fun produced a child.. If you cant or wont accept the responsibility then practice celibacy...
Originally posted by SevenBeans
It isn't far fetched at all to say that the law treats Women like irresponsible children who can't be trusted to deal with the results of their unilateral choices on their own.
Men have 100 percent control over whether they have a baby or not. It begins and ends with the man. If he puts his penis inside a baby making factory ie a womb, he knows the end result could be a baby. Men must love playing these waiting games, oh is my spilled seed I 100 percent consetually dropped off at the baby making factory going to result in a baby??
Originally posted by SevenBeans
Originally posted by mblahnikluver
Ok I get what you are saying I think, the woman ultimately decides whether to keep it or not? That is true I will agree but it's both parties fault for the woman having to make that choice...and you being a man you will have no idea how that choice affects a woman.
I've had friends break down in tears because a girl threw their unborn "baby" in the trash. I've also had friends breakdown over becoming a Father when they knew they weren't ready. Saying that Men can't imagine etc. etc. I think is very disrespectful. I would never say "you're not a Man so you could never imagine what it's like to have the person you love kill your unborn baby" because I know you CAN probably imagine that (because you're not a retard).
Just because a choice is difficult, doesn't mean that you should be able to hold someone else equally responsible for the results.
edit on 12-11-2010 by SevenBeans because: (no reason given)edit on 12-11-2010 by SevenBeans because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by hotbakedtater
Men have 100 percent control over whether they have a baby or not. It begins and ends with the man. If he puts his penis inside a baby making factory ie a womb, he knows the end result could be a baby.